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What should I think of a guy whom I went on a 1st date with and we had a great time. He asked if we could go out again and that was two weeks ago. He sends me texts everyday to say morning and goodnight as well as throughout the day. I'm really getting bored with him at this point. Why would a guy continue to text me and stay in communication but not set plans to meet up. What makes me even more confused is he will send me interesting restaurants and say we should check them out...or he has offered to cook for me and asked what I would like but never set a date. I took the initiative and asked if he was free Thursday and he said he was busy but didn't offer another time so I dropped it. Does he or doesn't he like me?
He's shy, which obviously isn't your type. You could just as easily set plans with him, but you don't want to. So you're both playing "date chicken", where you're waiting for the other one to make the first move. Couples like this are not a match, so whether he likes you or not doesn't matter....you're not a good fit.
You could just as easily set plans with him, but you don't want to.
That was going to be my suggestion up until I read the part where she DID suggest a day, but he turned it down with no counter offer. For any gender this would be a turn off and a sign to stop trying.
That was going to be my suggestion up until I read the part where she DID suggest a day, but he turned it down with no counter offer. For any gender this would be a turn off and a sign to stop trying.
My thoughts as well. That's not gender specific. But note the back and forth:
-he offered a plan, but no date
-she suggested a date, but no plan
Both are being flaky, which is why I referred to it as "date chicken".
What should I think of a guy whom I went on a 1st date with and we had a great time. He asked if we could go out again and that was two weeks ago. He sends me texts everyday to say morning and goodnight as well as throughout the day. I'm really getting bored with him at this point. Why would a guy continue to text me and stay in communication but not set plans to meet up. What makes me even more confused is he will send me interesting restaurants and say we should check them out...or he has offered to cook for me and asked what I would like but never set a date. I took the initiative and asked if he was free Thursday and he said he was busy but didn't offer another time so I dropped it. Does he or doesn't he like me?
That would be aggravating!
Next time he sends a text like that, just say you seem to be too busy to go with me, but I`ll check it out with Bob or Sally?
He's shy, which obviously isn't your type. You could just as easily set plans with him, but you don't want to. So you're both playing "date chicken", where you're waiting for the other one to make the first move. Couples like this are not a match, so whether he likes you or not doesn't matter....you're not a good fit.
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Originally Posted by Hivemind31
My thoughts as well. That's not gender specific. But note the back and forth:
-he offered a plan, but no date
-she suggested a date, but no plan
Both are being flaky, which is why I referred to it as "date chicken".
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Originally Posted by oh-eve
How annoying.
If you are really interested, why don't you say "When do I see you again?" Or "When do you want to go to the restaurant xy?"
if no set date is offered, good bye!
I recently ate at a restaurant with some friends and I posted pictures to my instagram about it. He saw them and told me it looked good and we should go together. I suggested Thursday...he then said "Oh I can't Thursday I have practice." So then it ended. Shouldn't he have suggested another date if he wanted to see me or do I have to keep playing the guessing game to figure out his schedule. Next week will be the third week since we have met and been playing pen pals/ texting buddies. I've been thinking about blocking his number. I'm wondering if I'm on the back burner while he is seeing others.
I recently ate at a restaurant with some friends and I posted pictures to my instagram about it. He saw them and told me it looked good and we should go together. I suggested Thursday...he then said "Oh I can't Thursday I have practice." So then it ended. Shouldn't he have suggested another date if he wanted to see me or do I have to keep playing the guessing game to figure out his schedule.
I'm willing to play the guessing game for the first date. MAYBE the second if I really liked her. After that, it's too much work; there are other women out there who don't set up as many hoops. It applies both ways.
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