Is she just shy? or playing games? (date, girl, romantic)

[dio9366]

so after I got out of a long tern relationship for almost 9 months, I finally met a girl that have many things in common.

Long story short, I met her online and I asked her out for a coffee. during the conversation, we found out we both like

many similar things and there is strong connection between us. so I paid for the meal that night and she said she'd like to

go out with me to see a show and buy me a drink next time.

I asked her out after one week later and arranged a date, she replied and said YES and sounds very exciting to see me.

then after 2 days she texted to me and said she fall down from a stair and twisted her leg so she need to rest and recover

so she won't be able to see me this weekend. she apologized and promise me to treat me to dinner next time, I said ok, we shall see each other after you recovered.

I finally texted her four days later asking her if she felt any better, then after 9 hours she finally replied only with" I felt much better~~ Thank you))"

At this point I think she is purposely holding back, and doesn't act sincerely enough, because until this time I am the one who initiated contact, arranged dates, make appointment

with restaurants...etc. she delivered none of the promise she made. I kinda felt disappointed and prefer to leave it at that.

What is you guys opinions on this? should I give her a another chance and ask her out? or move on?

[Just A Guy]

Move on. She's not into you.

[BirdieBelle]

Well, it's not "shyness."

She may just be bad at turning people down.

[reneeh63]

So you say that you "finally met a girl". You act as though you invested a fair amount in the search and had a good first date. Still, you're ready to cut your losses after a second failed date. If you think you have enough chances out there that you can burn through the possibility of a second date then sure - forget her.

Personally, I think people are so afraid of getting hurt that they'll use ANYTHING to avoid it, or to avoid looking or feeling silly, or looking like they might care for someone a minuscule more than they do (at this particular moment, anyway).

She even said that SHE's gonna treat you to dinner, apparently because she feel guilty? Why not do it? If she flakes, THEN forget her...if she shows at least you've got some free food...and maybe a third date if you feel like it.

[LiftYouUp2016]

Meh, don't put all your eggs in one basket. I wouldn't even bother with that one going forward. Find another, there are many out there.

[gweilo845]

Have you actually asked her to go out again since the injury?

Saying "we shall see each other after you recovered" is vague and wishy-washy. She might be thinking you are the one that lost interest.

Also: "At this point I think she is purposely holding back, and doesn't act sincerely enough, because until this time I am the one who initiated contact, arranged dates, make appointment with restaurants...etc"

You've been out on one coffee date. Chill out. There's a common thread on many of the questions on this forum, and it's that people are getting way too invested way too early. Again, you went out on ONE date for coffee. She owes you nothing. Quit acting possessive and pouty. No one likes that look.

[JerZ]

I'm sorry...it just doesn't sound like she wants to go out with you in that way (romantically) .

I would keep looking.

[JayJayCB]

You could still give it a shot and meet in person again, after all you only met once. See if she's still interested, assuming the first date went as well as you said. But her taking so long to text back is (unfortunately) never a good sign.

[1xolisiwe]

Originally Posted by JerZ

I'm sorry...it just doesn't sound like she wants to go out with you in that way (romantically) .

I would keep looking.

Agreed!