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So I've been speaking with a woman I met a few weeks ago.
We've had a couple of dinner dates...today she took me to lunch for my birthday (nice surprise!) We talked over the meal, she at times talks a wee bit too loud. As we were parting after the meal, we hugged, and I heard a beeping noise - turns out she wears hearing aids in both ears; she admitted to me that she's had hearing disorder from early childhood. No problem in my opinion - I'm not a judgmental man. I guess that explains her speaking a bit loud at times. But how do I ask her, without hurting her feelings, that she can take it down just a tad?
...No problem in my opinion - I'm not a judgmental man. I guess that explains her speaking a bit loud at times. But how do I ask her, without hurting her feelings, that she can take it down just a tad?
You don't. You accept her as she is. Deal with it.
Food for thought: I had a step-brother who was legally blind. He'd shout at us all the time because he couldn't see that we were paying attention to him. I spent years thinking people were always ignoring me when it turns out they just couldn't hear me - I have really good hearing so to myself I sound incredibly loud.
Chances are with this gal, as she has a hearing problem, she can't hear how loud she is especially if your surroundings are also loud (dishes clanking in the kitchen, kids screaming at the next table, etc). For your next date, try taking her somewhere quiet and see if that makes a difference.
Chances are with this gal, as she has a hearing problem, she can't hear how loud she is especially if your surroundings are also loud (dishes clanking in the kitchen, kids screaming at the next table, etc). For your next date, try taking her somewhere quiet and see if that makes a difference.
That's what I was thinking too.
Perhaps, OP, see what happens when you are not in a restaurant situation before thinking about saying something.
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