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Why do people insist on giving fictional names to people in their supposedly non-fictional story? Just say "my husband" or "my ex." It's less confusing and more believable.
Does your ex remember you? I mean is there any chance that he might say something before you get the chance?
This is the plot hole you can drive a truck through. Simply astounding that when the two guys first met, the ex never mentioned that you were friends. Or that he knew you. At all. Guess he decided to keep that info to himself and somehow telepathically knew that you had never mentioned him to your husband.
So what was it like when you saw the ex again with your husband? You guys shook hands and pretended to be meeting for the first time? Was there a twinkle of the eye at least, and an unspoken agreement that the two ex lovers have a pact not to reveal their history?
That part was missing from the story so you might want to go back and fill that section in.
This is the plot hole you can drive a truck through. Simply astounding that when the two guys first met, the ex never mentioned that you were friends. Or that he knew you. At all. Guess he decided to keep that info to himself and somehow telepathically knew that you had never mentioned him to your husband.
So what was it like when you saw the ex again with your husband? You guys shook hands and pretended to be meeting for the first time? Was there a twinkle of the eye at least, and an unspoken agreement that the two ex lovers have a pact not to reveal their history?
That part was missing from the story so you might want to go back and fill that section in.
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That's what I was wondering.
Friend has no recollection of the OP's hook-up? Seems like it would have come up by now or there would have been some obviously awkward tension.
Hi. I have a bit of a delicate situation with my hubby. We met four years ago and we've been married a little over two years (!) and are now talking about starting a family (!). I'll call him Dave but that's obviously not his real name.
Dave and I met at a time when I had almost lost hope that I'd meet the right guy. Well I met Dave and he swept me off my feet. When we got intimate I found out that he was the most caring and patient (and good!) guy in the world. Anyway, his romantic life before me was (very) limited as I found out when we talked about our relationships in the past. So when I told him about my past I mentioned the real boyfriends I've had and left out details of the not-so-real boyfriends. I didn't want to hurt his feelings that I was more experienced.
We have a pretty large social circle. I've actually helped Dave come out of his shell a lot. We're always invited to parties and we do our share of hosting as well. He has recently become I guess pretty good friends with a guy. This is a guy from a while ago and falls under the not-so-real boyfriends I had before meeting Dave. Anyway Dave doesn't know anything about that guy and me. That guy comes around to our house once in a while and it feels weird to me that Dave and he have become friends.
Do I have any need / moral obligation / whatever the term is, to tell Dave about that guy? The other guy hasn't said anything but what if he accidentally says something? So not really earth shattering but I'd like some suggestions please.
Yes I'd tell him.
Simply because if he ever did find out I'm sure he would feel more hurt and disappointed that YOU didn't tell him first
Hi. I have a bit of a delicate situation with my hubby. We met four years ago and we've been married a little over two years (!) and are now talking about starting a family (!). I'll call him Dave but that's obviously not his real name.
Dave and I met at a time when I had almost lost hope that I'd meet the right guy. Well I met Dave and he swept me off my feet. When we got intimate I found out that he was the most caring and patient (and good!) guy in the world. Anyway, his romantic life before me was (very) limited as I found out when we talked about our relationships in the past. So when I told him about my past I mentioned the real boyfriends I've had and left out details of the not-so-real boyfriends. I didn't want to hurt his feelings that I was more experienced.
We have a pretty large social circle. I've actually helped Dave come out of his shell a lot. We're always invited to parties and we do our share of hosting as well. He has recently become I guess pretty good friends with a guy. This is a guy from a while ago and falls under the not-so-real boyfriends I had before meeting Dave. Anyway Dave doesn't know anything about that guy and me. That guy comes around to our house once in a while and it feels weird to me that Dave and he have become friends.
Do I have any need / moral obligation / whatever the term is, to tell Dave about that guy? The other guy hasn't said anything but what if he accidentally says something? So not really earth shattering but I'd like some suggestions please.
Yes. Absolutely. You'd be an idiot to not tell him. Because he finds out that you used to date and you DIDN'T tell him, he would assume a great deal worse.
Pretty much yup. Dave has the impression that I wasn't into casual stuff.
Was it more than a few times? Is there any chance u want it again? I've done both, not said anything and I've also told a boyfriends that I've been with a friend of his. It really all depends on the guy, and how confident he is. He sounds like the not overly confident guy, so I would probably not say anything. The guys I've have said anything to, have been cool about it but like I said they were crazy confident in there abilities sexually. Your man I think might not be ok with it from what u said.
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