Would you accept this? Too ill to see me but has dinner with ex girlfriend (dating, guy)
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I spent the weekend in another city helping a girlfriend through a difficult time. He knew this.
On Friday he was looking through old photos because he has to do a brief presentation about his life history at work. I was on the train and asked him to send me his favourite photo. He sends me a photo of him and his ex-girlfriend in Portugal. Apparently he thought it would be funny because my Mom now lives there.
On Sunday I'm coming back on the train to London and he texts saying "I’d love to see you tonight but my cough isn’t fully gone. I didn’t have any issues with it last night but I am worried it might flare up again and keep you awake".
He does this all the time, says he wants to see me but already includes excuses at to why he might not be able too. Anyway, I told him that he should stay home, get some rest and hopefully cure that cough.
I called him when I got home and I found out he had just been out for dinner with his ex-girlfriend. The same one from the picture. They're friends. I then said, "oh cool, so you're ok enough to come over to mine?" And he said "no, I don't really want to catch anymore cold air. I think I should stay in".
Is this normal/nice behaviour? Would you accept it? Also, we have only been dating for 8-9 months!
Also, we're going to Mexico on Saturday for 2 weeks. What do I do? Do I go? Do I dump him? The trip cost so much money ...
It sounds like he doesn't take your relationship seriously, so going on a trip with him doesn't sound like a great idea, despite the cost.
But, why don't you just ask him what the deal is? It's perfectly reasonable for you to want to know why he couldn't see you, but went out with her. You said you "found out" he went out to dinner with his ex. How did you find out? Did he tell you? Found out is different from being told. If you found out through some other means and he didn't tell you, then I would say your relationship is over.
Lastly if he always makes excuses why he can't see you, why do you want to continue to date him anyway?
He sent her his favorite photo, yes - but is that a recent photo? Did he go to Portugal with his ex recently? That's not clear.
I think he sent her A photo. But not recent one.
I spent the weekend in another city helping a girlfriend through a difficult time. He knew this.
On Friday he was looking through old photos because he has to do a brief presentation about his life history at work. I was on the train and asked him to send me his favourite photo. He sends me a photo of him and his ex-girlfriend in Portugal. Apparently he thought it would be funny because my Mom now lives there.
On Sunday I'm coming back on the train to London and he texts saying "I’d love to see you tonight but my cough isn’t fully gone. I didn’t have any issues with it last night but I am worried it might flare up again and keep you awake".
He does this all the time, says he wants to see me but already includes excuses at to why he might not be able too. Anyway, I told him that he should stay home, get some rest and hopefully cure that cough.
I called him when I got home and I found out he had just been out for dinner with his ex-girlfriend. The same one from the picture. They're friends. I then said, "oh cool, so you're ok enough to come over to mine?" And he said "no, I don't really want to catch anymore cold air. I think I should stay in".
Is this normal/nice behaviour? Would you accept it? Also, we have only been dating for 8-9 months!
Also, we're going to Mexico on Saturday for 2 weeks. What do I do? Do I go? Do I dump him? The trip cost so much money ...
If I say I would accept it, are you going to base your decision off that? Or is this a case of 'I'm going to continue with this out of love, I just need to vent'?
I spent the weekend in another city helping a girlfriend through a difficult time. He knew this.
On Friday he was looking through old photos because he has to do a brief presentation about his life history at work. I was on the train and asked him to send me his favourite photo. He sends me a photo of him and his ex-girlfriend in Portugal. Apparently he thought it would be funny because my Mom now lives there.
On Sunday I'm coming back on the train to London and he texts saying "I’d love to see you tonight but my cough isn’t fully gone. I didn’t have any issues with it last night but I am worried it might flare up again and keep you awake".
He does this all the time, says he wants to see me but already includes excuses at to why he might not be able too. Anyway, I told him that he should stay home, get some rest and hopefully cure that cough.
I called him when I got home and I found out he had just been out for dinner with his ex-girlfriend. The same one from the picture. They're friends. I then said, "oh cool, so you're ok enough to come over to mine?" And he said "no, I don't really want to catch anymore cold air. I think I should stay in".
Is this normal/nice behaviour? Would you accept it? Also, we have only been dating for 8-9 months!
Also, we're going to Mexico on Saturday for 2 weeks. What do I do? Do I go? Do I dump him? The trip cost so much money ...
I spent the weekend in another city helping a girlfriend through a difficult time. He knew this.
On Friday he was looking through old photos because he has to do a brief presentation about his life history at work. I was on the train and asked him to send me his favourite photo. He sends me a photo of him and his ex-girlfriend in Portugal. Apparently he thought it would be funny because my Mom now lives there.
On Sunday I'm coming back on the train to London and he texts saying "I’d love to see you tonight but my cough isn’t fully gone. I didn’t have any issues with it last night but I am worried it might flare up again and keep you awake".
He does this all the time, says he wants to see me but already includes excuses at to why he might not be able too. Anyway, I told him that he should stay home, get some rest and hopefully cure that cough.
I called him when I got home and I found out he had just been out for dinner with his ex-girlfriend. The same one from the picture. They're friends. I then said, "oh cool, so you're ok enough to come over to mine?" And he said "no, I don't really want to catch anymore cold air. I think I should stay in".
Is this normal/nice behaviour? Would you accept it? Also, we have only been dating for 8-9 months!
Also, we're going to Mexico on Saturday for 2 weeks. What do I do? Do I go? Do I dump him? The trip cost so much money ...
He's really not that into you. When someone is interested, they make plans not constant excuses. Let him go and move on.
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