Why do people find romantic relationships hard to maintain? (long-term, women, single)
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romantic relationships are just usually far more complex and intimate, as most people only have one at a time, there is more expected in more realms of a relationship as well... and being more emotionally charged, things are often more tenuous
friendships can be single faceted, or have a few facets, while omantic relationships have almost every facet involved... more variables, more complexity, and more at stake
I've always wondered why being in a relationship can be so difficult for some people? Is it the expectations, assumptions in a partner, infatuation?
Compared to any other type of relationship, It really seems difficult for some people. Why?
It's the commitment more than anything mate and not realising how much hard work is involved in making a relationship work....
Also it's not being able to do a lot of the things that you can do when your single is a drawback for some and often when they revert back to them it spells the end of the relationship
I've always wondered why being in a relationship can be so difficult for some people? Is it the expectations, assumptions in a partner, infatuation?
Compared to any other type of relationship, It really seems difficult for some people. Why?
Incompatibility, whether personality differences, worldviews (religion, politics, how they perceive the world, etc., etc.), different financial goals, outlook on life, emotional/physical needs, various idiosyncrasies and quirks, different communication styles, temperaments, specific roles/expectations, and for parents, parenting styles.
So, yeah, varying levels of incompatibility. There are many layers and facets that make up a compatible long term match.
Sometimes it's expectations and thinking that it should be easy and that no work should be involved in maintaining the relationship. There are so many things that get in the way of keeping the spark going. Kids, work, curve balls that life throws you, and so many other things distract us from our partners and giving them and the relationship the full attention they require. On top of that, men and women in general communicate differently and have different expectations from relationships. It's easy to get distracted, lazy, or complacent.
Unrealistic expectations, nobody is perfect. Don't dump them over one thing you don't like. (unless she's cheated in the past or is bisexual, yeah I would break up with a woman for that).
I've always wondered why being in a relationship can be so difficult for some people? Is it the expectations, assumptions in a partner, infatuation?
Compared to any other type of relationship, It really seems difficult for some people. Why?
Because relationships are hard to maintain these days. We live in a completely different world than our parents, and a different universe than our grandparents.
It depends what you are talking about: establishing a new romantic relationship or maintaining a long-term partnership. Two VERY different things.
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