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A few months ago we were at a family party and my girlfriends friend tagged along. She proceeded to get blackout drunk and made a fool of herself. Dancing with family members, making out with random guys and generally talking inappropriate drunk nonsense.
At first I wanted to brush it off as a one time thing, but I recently found out that she also slept with another friends exboyfriend (while sober) even though the friend was still clearly not over the breakup.
Should I tell my girlfriend about this and how I really feel about it? She doesn't know about her sleeping with the other guy. Part of me wants to tell her about this so she knows who her friend really is and I can protect her from this person, but part of me doesn't want to damage the close relationship that my girlfriend and this other person have. What would you do?
I would have a casual conversation with the GF about her friend. Don't make it a tattle tell session. Just let her know why you don't like the friend. See what she says. Your GF will and should decide if this is a friendship she wants to maintain or let it fade.
I'm not getting where this is anyone's business. She's not even the EX of the boyfriend that this other woman had slept with? BTW, when you're an ex you're an ex so it's silly to try to hang on to that person and get all upset over it...but it doesn't even relate to her.
So you're protecting her from this friend maybe sleeping with her next exboyfriend?! uhm yeah...sounds like you just want to gossip and create drama. If she's not close enough to this friend to be aware of her drunken behavior already then it really has no impact on her and she has no reason to be concerned.
Tell her what? That she likes to cut loose? Why do you feel anything about this? Protect her from what?
Mind your own business.
protect my gf from a shady friend that obviously doesn't care about hurting those close to her and generally draws negative attention. If she's doing it to others, she will do it to my gf.
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protect my gf from a shady friend that obviously doesn't care about hurting those close to her and generally draws negative attention. If she's doing it to others, she will do it to my gf.
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Originally Posted by Suburban_Guy
No.
MYOB.
Period.
Don't be that drama queen.
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Originally Posted by reneeh63
I'm not getting where this is anyone's business. She's not even the EX of the boyfriend that this other woman had slept with? BTW, when you're an ex you're an ex so it's silly to try to hang on to that person and get all upset over it...but it doesn't even relate to her.
So you're protecting her from this friend maybe sleeping with her next exboyfriend?! uhm yeah...sounds like you just want to gossip and create drama. If she's not close enough to this friend to be aware of her drunken behavior already then it really has no impact on her and she has no reason to be concerned.
It's pretty likely your GF is not clueless about her friend's conduct and has chosen to remain friends anyway. You say they're close. How long have they been friends?
A few months ago we were at a family party and my girlfriends friend tagged along. She proceeded to get blackout drunk and made a fool of herself. Dancing with family members, making out with random guys and generally talking inappropriate drunk nonsense.
Ummm... since you were at the party with your girlfriend, she KNOWS how her friend acted.
I have a feeling the OP, like the majority of people who come on here seeking 'advice', is not really looking for all advice per se, but only looking for people that agree with him (or her). Reassurances, if you will, that their line of thought is correct and that they should proceed with their course of action.
Hence, the OP is already trying to reason with one response above why he thinks the way he is.
I predict multiple pages of the OP continuing to argue why he should tell his girlfriend about this, despite what people have told him about minding his own business.
It is what it is.
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