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I knew this Puerto Rican girl for 4 Years she was a Taurus we used to go out, Everything was cool than we broke up, and had a huge fight That led to us not talking for a year I never tried to talk to her again. Then one day I started Thinkin about her, and out of nowhere I got a Fb message rom her telling me how much she misses me and how she wishes we were still talking. So we decided to give it another shot that also didn't end well either she used to act like she wanted to be with me but we used to get into arguments over the dumbest thing. So finally we decided to be just friends and I was cool with that, everything was going good and she started calling me her best friend. I thought it was sweet we used to talk about everything and I suddenly felt closer to her than I felt when I was her bf, but I just couldn't understand how she would tell me how much she wanted to hang out with me and do things together. For example she used to always tell me that whenever she comes to my location we would hang out, but when she showed up I found out that she was hanging out with her other friends and every time I let her know that I knew she was in my area and didn't even attempt to contact me, she would just give me some bs excuse like "oh I thought you would be busy" smh like how hard would it be to contact me and let me know you were interested in making plans together. Then I'd see her on sites with pics of her and friends. I felt used like she didn't really wanna be my friend and only used me to talk crap about other people and run to me whenever one of her bfs cheated on her or she was going through problems. She would always tell me how people used to leave her. I feel like she only gave me the bestie title because she wanted me to stick around, I'd hate to admit it but at times I feel like she ruined my life. before she hmu again after not talking for a year I was so happy like everything was going good now I can't stop thinking about her I even check her social media every once in a while I haven't tried to talk to her since our fight, I want Everything to go back to how it was before she contacted me again. Any advice?
Did she give you an incurable disease?
Did she ruin your credit rating?
Did she cause you to get fired from your job in spectacular, public fashion, the kind that will be out there in social media for eons?
Did she cause you to get disinherited?
Did she cause you to commit a crime for which you're now serving time in the pokey?
If she didn't do any of these things, she didn't ruin your life. Man up, grow a pair, lose the drama, and move on.
I knew this Puerto Rican girl for 4 Years she was a Taurus we used to go out, Everything was cool than we broke up, and had a huge fight That led to us not talking for a year I never tried to talk to her again. Then one day I started Thinkin about her, and out of nowhere I got a Fb message rom her telling me how much she misses me and how she wishes we were still talking. So we decided to give it another shot that also didn't end well either she used to act like she wanted to be with me but we used to get into arguments over the dumbest thing. So finally we decided to be just friends and I was cool with that, everything was going good and she started calling me her best friend. I thought it was sweet we used to talk about everything and I suddenly felt closer to her than I felt when I was her bf, but I just couldn't understand how she would tell me how much she wanted to hang out with me and do things together. For example she used to always tell me that whenever she comes to my location we would hang out, but when she showed up I found out that she was hanging out with her other friends and every time I let her know that I knew she was in my area and didn't even attempt to contact me, she would just give me some bs excuse like "oh I thought you would be busy" smh like how hard would it be to contact me and let me know you were interested in making plans together. Then I'd see her on sites with pics of her and friends. I felt used like she didn't really wanna be my friend and only used me to talk crap about other people and run to me whenever one of her bfs cheated on her or she was going through problems. She would always tell me how people used to leave her. I feel like she only gave me the bestie title because she wanted me to stick around, I'd hate to admit it but at times I feel like she ruined my life. before she hmu again after not talking for a year I was so happy like everything was going good now I can't stop thinking about her I even check her social media every once in a while I haven't tried to talk to her since our fight, I want Everything to go back to how it was before she contacted me again. Any advice?
First bit of advice is to sever all ties. If you really wanna go back to how things were before she contacted you again.
Did she give you an incurable disease?
Did she ruin your credit rating?
Did she cause you to get fired from your job in spectacular, public fashion, the kind that will be out there in social media for eons?
Did she cause you to get disinherited?
Did she cause you to commit a crime for which you're now serving time in the pokey?
If she didn't do any of these things, she didn't ruin your life. Man up, grow a pair, lose the drama, and move on.
No but I wasted a lot of time on something that wasn't even there when I could've been with someone else or just enjoy my life.
You sound young. A lot of us probably thought our life was also ruined when these things happened when we were young too.
Your life isn't ruined, but you can probably do a pretty good job at shaving some years off if you continue to be in contact with this girl.
What makes me mad is that she came back into my life not the other way around. Like things were really going well for me before me and her started talking again she couldn't even tell me sorry for how she treated me I was always the one apologizing.
What makes me mad is that she came back into my life not the other way around. Like things were really going well for me before me and her started talking again she couldn't even tell me sorry for how she treated me I was always the one apologizing.
This is on you, homeboy. What you allow will continue (sorry). I know it sucks, but you gotta take some ownership here. It's not even that big a deal, I was expecting a really horrible story here.. lol. ( Hell- I've experienced worse myself )
This is on you, homeboy. What you allow will continue (sorry). I know it sucks, but you gotta take some ownership here. It's not even that big a deal, I was expecting a really horrible story here.. lol. ( Hell- I've experienced worse myself )
Your life is not ruined. The Taurus and Puerto Rican stuff is irrelevant.
You met a girl, you dated her, it didn't work out. End of story. That's how things go sometimes. Move on. Just have to remind yourself and take this as a lesson learned.
What makes me mad is that she came back into my life not the other way around. Like things were really going well for me before me and her started talking again she couldn't even tell me sorry for how she treated me I was always the one apologizing.
I've dealt with one of these before.
DO. NOT. TALK. TO. HER. ANYMORE.
I need to emphasize this, or else she will be ruining you 5 years from now or however long. Even if you go years without talking to her again, don't let her back in.
My friend used to refer to this type of ex as ''The perennial''.
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