I am going to try to make this as short as possible. In December 2013 I met a girl named "M" through a college friend of mine. At the end of every semester we did a karaoke event and for the first one, my friend brought this girl along. My friend and this girl are both teachers (they were colleagues at the time) and so am I. We have hung out a few times within the past 2 years (without my friend) and although I started to like her, it never once crossed my mind that she felt the same way. I know what to look for, and she never dropped any hints, and never explicitly stated that she was interested in more than that. I was always confused. I am 27 and she is 35. She is my brother's age....
Well about three weeks ago she contacted me out of the blue (which is really interesting considering I had literally just got out of a relationship a few days to a week prior) to some concert with her and her friend. When she dropped her friend off, she asked me if I wanted to get dinner (which I thought was strange and so spontaneous). I obliged. There was definitely flirting. Fast forward to two days ago. I asked her if she wanted to hang out and we had a great time. She took my hand and we were holding hands as well as placing her arm around mine...in public and in the movie theater...
She initiated all of this and I thought it was very interesting considering this was the first time (in 2 YEARS) this girl had EVER done anything like that or made it clear that perhaps she had feelings of some sort. When we were eating dinner a couple with two kids sat next to us and she commented on the babies. I had asked her about wanting kids/marriage and she mentioned that she felt it's "about time" and I asked if she was just too focused on her career or just didn't find anyone to her liking and she mentioned that it was both.
Towards the end of our outing she said "can I be honest with you? Where do you see this going?" I wasn't completely surprised but at the same time I was... My age has always been a problem for this girl. I told her that I had feelings but I know that my age has been a problem for her. She made it clear two nights ago that two things she had doubts about are the age difference and celibacy. She wants to get married and have kids soon and while I would like that in my future, I do not have plans to get married or have kids anytime soon. If we were to have kids in a few years, I would be like 32 while she would be pushing 40....
She also felt that I still have "time to make mistakes" (
) She is also Christian and is waiting until marriage, which is OK (I feel like there is so much more to relationships when you love someone), but it'd be super hard for me to commit without knowing if I'd end up falling in love with this girl.... All of the girls I have seriously ever been in love with in the past were submissive and have treated me like I was a king
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I could see the look on her face and and her body language and she looked kind of defeated... Before I went home she said I'd have to think about those things. So clueless about what to do in this situation. She IS a nice girl, smart, likes me, but I don't know.... THERE. About the length: I tried
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