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=( I'm an almost 32 year old single female with no kids. Is it better for me to have had out of wedlock children?!
This is what makes no sense. Or maybe he's thinking, it's preferable that a woman have been married and had a child, then divorced due to factors beyond her control (hubby's behavior, of some sort), because it demonstrates commitment?
Does the OP really want to help raise some other guy's child? Is he ok with that? None of this makes sense.
This is what makes no sense. Or maybe he's thinking, it's preferable that a woman have been married and had a child, then divorced due to factors beyond her control (hubby's behavior, of some sort), because it demonstrates commitment?
Does the OP really want to help raise some other guy's child? Is he ok with that? None of this makes sense.
I guess now in many parts of the US it's more acceptable for a woman in her 30s to be single and have out of wedlock kids, than for a woman in her 30s to be single and not have kids since out of wedlock births aren't really frowned upon anymore I suppose, likewise divorce isn't frowned upon anymore either.
I rarely will date a man with kids or even a divorced man.
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My main concern with someone who says they don't want children is that they are "Child Free By Choice", or a supporter of "The ChildFree Philosophy". I am fundamentally incompatible with someone who thinks the human race should voluntarily become extinct or greatly reduced in number. It would be like a pro choice person being with a pro life person. I am pro choice, and I am also "Childless by Circumstance" rather than "ChildFree by Choice".
Now, if she is like me and wanted them when she was younger, but the right circumstances never came to be, that's different. Or if there is a health reason which results in it being impossible or ill advised for her to have children, that's also different.
I'm talking about someone who made a good living, lived in a good neighborhood, and by all accounts would make a good mother, and was with men who wanted children, but she chose not to have any. That would be suspicious.
You'd need to find out more information about why she doesn't have any kids? This sounds crazy. It makes no sense. She doesn't have kids because she's a classy woman who has her act together. Why do you need to know more than that? Why would being child-free at 33 warrant caution? lol It just sounds crazy. Most men find it to be a plus. Where are you from?
I would only find it a redflag if she stated that she always wanted a family from a young age,and was never able to find a husband, then I would wonder what stopped her.
I did date someone like that who said just that, 5 weeks into dating her I figured out why.
I honestly wonder why you think this is such a red flag that you created a post and poll about it.
The conditioning to think a certain way.. and believing that others should do so also.
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