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So my ex broke up with me yesterday and called me the next day at 3 am. I missed the call but I called him back with no answer. 30 minutes later he finally called me to say "this is the worst thing I could do and I shouldn't call you and you need to get over me and I need to get over you.... But... This is hard it's hard not talking to you." And I said "I'm sorry" he said "**** I shouldn't have called you this is bad" I said "ok sorry" he said "hang up on me" I said "you hang up" he said "no hang up on me you have to.." And I hung up on him mid sentence. We dated for a year and a half and just a week ago he left for college. When he got to college he automatically switched from loving me to completely indifferent. The breakup was very harsh and my friends tell me not to get back with him, but ofcourse I love him so much. He's vulnerable right now and I feel like this is when I should take my opportunity to get him back. But I acted so careless on the phone and now I regret hanging up. It's been an hour since the call, what should I do?
Let him go. You can't force someone to be with you. I recognise you are concerned about his vulnerability, but what about yours? Sometimes we get so caught up in looking after the other person that we forget to take care of ourselves.
Maybe down the line, if it's meant to be, you will find your way back to each other, but for now he's clearly telling you he does not want to be with you. Please hear that as it will only cause more heartache for you otherwise.
Call him back and give him the opportunity to speak. He obviously has something on his mind that hes got to get out, just be guarded. He may need to right the situation.
I can understand how he is feeling if you were also best friends.
He no longer wants a relationship but for whatever reason he ended it, he's not so unfeeling as not to be upset about it and wants you to commiserate with him and help him deal with it.
For you, this has to be a "Sorry, Charlie"...he can't have only the part of you that suits him.
Unless you don't mind playing the role of therapist, protect your own feelings and cut him off .
maybe hes a bit obsessed in missing you going to college and it hurts ...but college is the priority,,,and he may think the pain will lesson if he doesn't talk to you
so, take the high road,,be benevolent - thinking you are actually helping him,,,,,by keeping your distance..
some things sucks in life and cut like a sharp blade..... and when we haven't had much experience in this,,,it is painful..
keep your distance...remember the good times,,
we all go thru this,,,life/love/relationships, can really suck at times,,,but it does build character,,
my god when I broke up in my first ever relationship,,
I felt like someone pulled my heart right out of me ..
It's not smart to be attached when going off to college....and odds are very good you weren't meant to marry this guy anyway. Learn what you can from it and then learn from a few more guys exactly what makes you happy...have fun and THEN think about settling down.
So my ex broke up with me yesterday and called me the next day at 3 am. I missed the call but I called him back with no answer. 30 minutes later he finally called me to say "this is the worst thing I could do and I shouldn't call you and you need to get over me and I need to get over you.... But... This is hard it's hard not talking to you." And I said "I'm sorry" he said "**** I shouldn't have called you this is bad" I said "ok sorry" he said "hang up on me" I said "you hang up" he said "no hang up on me you have to.." And I hung up on him mid sentence. We dated for a year and a half and just a week ago he left for college. When he got to college he automatically switched from loving me to completely indifferent. The breakup was very harsh and my friends tell me not to get back with him, but ofcourse I love him so much. He's vulnerable right now and I feel like this is when I should take my opportunity to get him back. But I acted so careless on the phone and now I regret hanging up. It's been an hour since the call, what should I do?
Hang-up, no you hang-up, no you hang-up.
You should speak quietly so your mom and dad don't hear talking in your room after bedtime.
But seriously, you are too old for this middle school junk, I assume you are of college age, just FYI, this is not how mature committed relationships work. Move on, grow up.
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