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You lack charm, and I do think this works best for those handsome, male model types that can literally charm the pants off of anyone they flirt with. Are you funny? Sarcastic? Can you hold a conversation? You've got to find what works best for you when trying to find a mate. Not every guy is made the same nor will the same outcomes happen for every male. Confidence also helps. Find what works best for you.
How often do you do this, and why do you think the women you choose are single?
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Usually if I smile and make eye contact with a woman and she doesn't respond, I just grab my crotch and wink. Is that gross? Yep. But she wasn't interested in me anyway, so I might as well have a little fun, right?!
I'm kidding.
I'd suggest two things. One, if you're locking on to random women in public, it's probably nothing personal. They're just not in that head space. If you're in a social setting, that's when you turn on the charm. Grocery store? Eh. Leave 'em be. The other thing is, I've read somewhere that women are actually attracted to men who seem to frown than dudes who have a big smile plastered on their face. In other words, they're more likely to find Batman attractive than the Joker. So next time you're out, put on some dark shades and give your best "bad cop" look.
Most women that you smile and say hello to will smile and say hello back to you. Most women won't hold eye contact with a stranger in random public setting. Most women also don't want to be approached by strange men in public. They are usually out to get something done and are not in the mood to be approached. If you are smiling and looking at them with intents of approaching them, they are going to sense this and be apprehensive.
You are right about one thing. Unless a woman finds you exceptionally attractive and non-threatening, she's not going to be very open to you just walking up to her and hitting on her.
I don't think this is very good advice.
How on earth is a man supposed to meet a woman if he never approaches?
OP, don't smile at the girl. Just walk up and talk to her.
You hear alot that if you're gonna approach a women in public make eye contact and smile at her and if she returns a smile and holds eye contact take a chance and approach.
Every time I've done that I literally get ignored and never have gotten a smile or eye contact back
This probably works for good looking guys but for the unattractive men like myself I can't see this working
This was one of the best ways I used to meet girls back in the early oughts... but these days, women are so snooty and stand-offish that 99% of the time, they'll avoid making eye contact whatsoever, and the other 1% they'll give you stink eye (that is if they aren’t buried in their smartphones). RBF is ubiquitous.
IME, It's got nothing to do with confidence or social skills. If my social skills weren't lacking in 2004 when I was a goofy, awkward kid, they're not lacking now, and my confidence is fine. You've gotta be a movie star to elicit a positive response from an attractive lady these days.
I still keep my eye out for someone who might be gawking me, but it hasn't happened in forever.
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This was one of the best ways I used to meet girls back in the early oughts... but these days, women are so snooty and stand-offish that 99% of the time, they'll avoid making eye contact whatsoever, and the other 1% they'll give you stink eye (that is if they aren’t buried in their smartphones). RBF is ubiquitous.
IME, It's got nothing to do with confidence or social skills. If my social skills weren't lacking in 2004 when I was a goofy, awkward kid, they're not lacking now, and my confidence is fine. You've gotta be a movie star to elicit a positive response from an attractive lady these days.
I still keep my eye out for someone who might be gawking me, but it hasn't happened in forever.
How old are you?
I just moved to Scottsdale and I'm looking for people to go out with to meet women. I met a dude on another forum and we're hitting the Tempe area on Friday. He doesn't seem to like the bars though.
This was one of the best ways I used to meet girls back in the early oughts... but these days, women are so snooty and stand-offish that 99% of the time, they'll avoid making eye contact whatsoever, and the other 1% they'll give you stink eye (that is if they aren’t buried in their smartphones). RBF is ubiquitous.
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