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Brief synopsis: I'm a friendly guy. I typically talk to people at the gym. However, I did not talk to this girl. She came up to me, asked to be gym buddies, and asked for my number. She was pretty cute, in very good shape, and a head taller than me.
Honestly, I wasn't sure what to make of it. So I figured that she probably was being literal in that she was simply looking for a gym buddy.
So I called her up when I was going to the gym. We went a few times together and, instead of working out, we spent hours talking (with her initiating the conversation....I took what she said at face value and was just trying to work out). Then, she didn't even work out and just left. She started talking about going out further and taking trips together. So I suggested that we have dinner. She was very interested.
I messaged her today to confirm that we were still on. She said yes. She messaged me about 3 hours before we were supposed to meet up to ask if I could pick her up. Then about 45 minutes before the date, she cancelled, suggesting a reschedule, but not actually offering a time or date.
This whole situation was bizarre. Any thoughts on this?
Obviously, she's not interested romantically (or she wouldn't have flaked), but why go through all of this if she wasn't really even looking for a work out partner either?
Unfortunately, she may have simply changed her mind about you completely (at least in a potential romantic sense). The fact that she cancelled suddenly and didn't offer a date or time is not a good sign whatsoever.
I agree the whole thing is strange. I don't pick up on people at the gym, nor am I looking for that when I go. I go to the gym to work out. And I don't even like working out with partners/friends, let alone a stranger I've never met who approaches me about being a "gym buddy."
Since I made this thread, she sent me an unprovoked text, saying that she hopes she didn't ruin my night.
This actually cleared things up a bit. I now believe that either she's hard-to-get or it's some kind of validation play.
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Originally Posted by BellevueNative
I agree the whole thing is strange. I don't pick up on people at the gym, nor am I looking for that when I go. I go to the gym to work out. And I don't even like working out with partners/friends, let alone a stranger I've never met who approaches me about being a "gym buddy."
That was my thought too. I've asked women out at the gym before and have had women ask me out before, but it was never quite like this. The whole thing just felt strange, if that makes any sense.
Since I made this thread, she sent me an unprovoked text, saying that she hopes she didn't ruin my night.
This actually cleared things up a bit. I now believe that either she's hard-to-get or it's some kind of validation play.
That was my thought too. I've asked women out at the gym before and have had women ask me out before, but it was never quite like this. The whole thing just felt strange, if that makes any sense.
Probably a little bit of both.
I would be worried that she's insecure, since she feels the need to resort to these types of games.
I would be worried that she's insecure, since she feels the need to resort to these types of games.
Yeah, I was on the fence about her to begin with. Too many red flags already (some of which I didn't discuss in this thread). So I'm done with this one.
This is the first time that I've put myself out there in the dating game in a couple of years. So I guess these things will happen a few times before I meet someone.
I might be inclined to give her a break if she said why she had to cancel and it sounded reasonable.
Just to do so without an explanation doesn't wash.
Since I made this thread, she sent me an unprovoked text, saying that she hopes she didn't ruin my night.
This actually cleared things up a bit. I now believe that either she's hard-to-get or it's some kind of validation play.
That was my thought too. I've asked women out at the gym before and have had women ask me out before, but it was never quite like this. The whole thing just felt strange, if that makes any sense.
Put it into perspective....
She has already caused you wasted energy because you are trying to figure out what her intentions were/are.
You said that while she randomly asked you to be her gym buddy, she didn't even exercise while at the gym with you.
That should have been a big red flag, this person is saying one thing and doing another. Not a good beginning of any type relationship. I wouldn't have called her about the gym the second time if it were me.
I think game players are such a waste of energy. Over time you'll begin to be emotionally drained, for what?
She sounds like a lot of hassle. Why bother with trying to even make this into a dating relationship. I'd just leave things at the gym. Or, NOT since that was a sham on her part too.
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