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I take back my answer. Ask her out to dinner, listen attentively, find something to make her laugh. Go for a walk, hold her hand, let her know she's safe with you. Hold her tight. Then, when she's ready, kiss her.
A woman wants to know she is more than an object before she can let her guard down.
If you were interested in her you should have asked her out on a date and tried at least to kiss her then. The whole thing with trying to be her friend first, then bf is a waste of time.
Amen.
This is why I think that whole "You should be friends FIRST before you start to be together romantically" theory is completely asinine, with all due respect. Not that there's many people who actually do believe that or follow this idea.
I take back my answer. Ask her out to dinner, listen attentively, find something to make her laugh. Go for a walk, hold her hand, let her know she's safe with you. Hold her tight. Then, when she's ready, kiss her.
A woman wants to know she is more than an object before she can let her guard down.
That's also assuming she gives him obvious signs that she wants him to make a move like that.
Who knows how she feels about the OP at this point.
This is why I think that whole "You should be friends FIRST before you start to be together romantically" theory is completely asinine, with all due respect. Not that there's many people who actually do believe that or follow this idea.
I was arguing with JAG a bit about this in another thread. To me, it makes it seem dishonest to be a woman's friend if you want something more than that.
From a woman's view. There was a man I really wanted to get close to- my heart melted every time I saw him, but he never made a move.
Eventually I moved on because I needed intimacy, but I still miss him.
A little background; I was always considered attractive & he was overweight. I wish he would have asked me out, but he never did. He did look hurt when he saw me with someone else, but a woman can't wait forever.
dont tell her how you feel:
100 %: be friends forever.
tell her how you feel:
50 %: boyfriend and girlfriend.
35 %: shes not into you but you remain friends (probably awkward encounters for the first 3 times).
15 %: shes not into you and doesnt want to hang out with you anymore.
What you are is young and in love. Trust me, no one is smooth at this the first time around.
Right now, you're like two people holding their cards not wanting to make the first move. It sounds to me like she's giving you some signals.
Take a chance.
Exactly! So OP, put the cards down and hold hands instead. Ask her to take a walk with you and just take her hand as if it's the most natural thing in the world. Hand-holding can become very amorous without undue effort. It's flesh-to-flesh without pushing boundaries overmuch.
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