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We are both in our mid 40's, divorced, her kids are on their own and I have one that will be out in 9 months to college.
We both dated after our divorce, hers was much more serious, mine was not. We agreed that if we did contact an ex, or if someone called "out of the blue" that we would tell each other.
I found out she contacted her serious ex BF. She was mad at me thinking I had talked to someone, I didn't, and I said that we agreed to tell each other if we did. I told her I have not and I thanked her for keeping her word with me. She said your welcome, and that was it.
I got the information from her good friend, whom I'm also good friends with her and her husband. I'm not going to get them in a "tiff".
I'm blowing it off, so she misses him and wanted to talk. That's fine, but maybe I'm too laid back.
Should this be a "red flag"? Am I still naïve? We have been dating for nearly 4 years. Yes, taking it slow.
It's a red flag for me. A serious ex boyfriend. She was suspicious of you talking to someone while she was actually talking to her ex boyfriend. I feel like she was playing coy and projecting her actions unto you. (making you the bad guy).
Did she initiate the contact or did he? Maybe she is stalking him on social media and discovered that he is recently single.
Are you putting in your work in the bedroom? The ex-boyfriend should not be in her mind if you are laying the pipe right!!!
It's a lie, and she broke a specific agreement the two of you had.
That would be my concern.
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We are both in our mid 40's, divorced, her kids are on their own and I have one that will be out in 9 months to college.
We both dated after our divorce, hers was much more serious, mine was not. We agreed that if we did contact an ex, or if someone called "out of the blue" that we would tell each other.
I found out she contacted her serious ex BF. She was mad at me thinking I had talked to someone, I didn't, and I said that we agreed to tell each other if we did. I told her I have not and I thanked her for keeping her word with me. She said your welcome, and that was it.
I got the information from her good friend, whom I'm also good friends with her and her husband. I'm not going to get them in a "tiff".
I'm blowing it off, so she misses him and wanted to talk. That's fine, but maybe I'm too laid back.
Should this be a "red flag"? Am I still naïve? We have been dating for nearly 4 years. Yes, taking it slow.
It's a red flag for me. A serious ex boyfriend. She was suspicious of you talking to someone while she was actually talking to her ex boyfriend. I feel like she was playing coy and projecting her actions unto you. (making you the bad guy).
Did she initiate the contact or did he? Maybe she is stalking him on social media and discovered that he is recently single.
Are you putting in your work in the bedroom? The ex-boyfriend should not be in her mind if you are laying the pipe right!!!
This!
Dating 4 years and she's looking in her exes direction?!
It's a red flag for me. A serious ex boyfriend. She was suspicious of you talking to someone while she was actually talking to her ex boyfriend. I feel like she was playing coy and projecting her actions unto you. (making you the bad guy).
Exactly right.
That the good friend and husband said something to you seems to make it even more serious.
That the good friend and husband said something to you seems to make it even more serious.
I forgot about that too. The fact that the friends of your girlfriend told you about when she didn't is very telling. They are giving you a BIG warning. Maybe, there is a long history with this ex-boyfriend.
Yeah this seems like the friend is showing some loyalty to you, waving a huge red flag in your face.
If the contact between your gf and her ex was meaningless would the friend have even gotten involved?
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