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I'm talking to this guy I have a great connection with. He then talks about his ex gf who passed away. He said she was "the one". Not exactly sure how I should feel.
You have a great connection ... based on what? I would proceed but cautiously. Work really hard not to invest too much of yourself early on. Ask him about his ex and how HE feels about dating.
You have a great connection ... based on what? I would proceed but cautiously. Work really hard not to invest too much of yourself early on. Ask him about his ex and how HE feels about dating.
Hahaha im always in some weird situation and find myself right back here! We are polar opposites and yet when we go on dates (2 at this point), we could talk for days. Physically and emotionally attracted to this guy, till he dropped that bomb and now I can't help but feel a bit weird. I don't want to think about his deceased ex but.. what should I even say/ask
I don't want to think about his deceased ex but.. what should I even say/ask
Did you say anything at the time, when he mentioned it, or did he just move on to something else?
It's awkward, but everyone has exes, and knowing the story behind a situation like this is important. When you go out again and y'all have been talking for a while, just say something like, "You know the other day when you were talking about (her name if you know it)? That must have been so awful. Do you mind if I ask you what happened?"
Did you say anything at the time, when he mentioned it, or did he just move on to something else?
It's awkward, but everyone has exes, and knowing the story behind a situation like this is important. When you go out again and y'all have been talking for a while, just say something like, "You know the other day when you were talking about (her name if you know it)? That must have been so awful. Do you mind if I ask you what happened?"
Is that the only time he's referred to her?
I said sorry. Asked him what happened and he told me it was a car accident she got into and passed away. We were talking over the phone a few minutes ago. He said it's been a few years but he still misses her but he learned to live with it. I understood that up until when he said she was the one- that was when I felt weird.
I guess in his mind she WAS the one, at least as far as he knew, and if you think about it that has no bearing on you because you didn't even know him then.
It doesn't have to mean you are a default choice. He IS out there again and dating.
Yeah, I mean I know I shouldn't feel weird about it if I was logical. But I'm not really thinking with my brain right now, just kinda going by the way I feel. It's been years and he haven't been in a serious relationship with anyone since her. Why can't I just find a normal guy without any baggage?!
My husband passed away and I never told a date "he was the one"
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You have come a long way 
what should I even say/ask
