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My husband would say Nor Cal and other metro and progressive areas gave him the best matches. When we crossed paths initially, on a dating site, I was still in San Diego and in the process of moving to the Bay Area. He was in Sacramento.
Any successful guy will tell you its not the city.
Quoted for truth.
Now there are always exceptions though, like if you live in the middle of nowhere, in an area with a dead population. Kind of like where my mom now lives in Upstate New York.
But I have lived in North Jersey, South Jersey, the San Diego area, the Los Angeles area and now Jacksonville, Florida and I've had the most success in Jacksonville, Florida. Not because there's a better selection here than in those other places, just because I was terrible with women at the time I lived in those places. I had more dates in the first 9 or 10 months that I was here, than I had in my entire first 31 years before I moved here. Now the girl I'm marrying is not from here, but I did have a pretty great run here before meeting her.
Now there are always exceptions though, like if you live in the middle of nowhere, in an area with a dead population. Kind of like where my mom now lives in Upstate New York.
But I have lived in North Jersey, South Jersey, the San Diego area, the Los Angeles area and now Jacksonville, Florida and I've had the most success in Jacksonville, Florida. Not because there's a better selection here than in those other places, just because I was terrible with women at the time I lived in those places. I had more dates in the first 9 or 10 months that I was here, than I had in my entire first 31 years before I moved here. Now the girl I'm marrying is not from here, but I did have a pretty great run here before meeting her.
I can assure you that for some, it is a matter of better selection that fits their criteria. If a man is decidedly child-free, but relocates to an area where CFBC is a foreign and fringe concept, where most of the available women either have or want children, then it narrows his dating pool.
I'm starting to wonder if a lot of folks take a very generic and basic approach to finding matches, as opposed to "dates." Like, how basic is your criteria that these very real factors aren't an issue? I guess if you take the "cast a wide net" approach and hope to catch anything that breathes, is decent looking, and checks off some other mediocre criteria then perhaps it's "easy" to get dates. This seems inefficient and ineffective if the goal is long term compatibility.
A lot of the men I was well-matched with had strict criteria where region was a major factor in their success. I remember interacting with one guy who had recently relocated to another state in a very conservative area. Being atheist and very progressive, this made finding suitable matches very difficult, nearly impossible. (since the statistics of female secularists and nontheists is pretty small as it is and this was a requirement of his) This was my husband's experience, too, because he had certain criteria, criteria that was not met in one of the areas he lived.
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