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OP, you had a FWB guy last month that you posted about here...is this the same guy you're talking about now? If so, it certainly explains why you only see each other once a week, and the lack of other things that would be normal in a regular relationship.
So, you started out as a FWB situation, and now you both might possibly want more from it. Like I said above, he probably wants to spend more time with you to see where this goes. Don't pressure him or overthink it.
I haven't been with someone for a really long time. It has been about 6 years or so since I've had sex. I have met several guys but there has been not much attraction except one but I found out he was married..
I wasn't out to meet guys but I go out from time to time and conversations start.
so I met someone when I was out about a month and a half ago. I had sex with him the first night we met. We met every week since then one night a week.
Our personalities are a little different, he is more an extrovert, I am an introvert. he is more into sports, I am more into nature and arts.
He also has been married and has two teenage kids. I have never been married and I don't have and do not want any children.
I am worried because I am thinking about where it is going now. I haven't planned on being with anyone but through the years have thought about getting married and settling down.. but some days I think about staying single forever.
He is 45, I am 38. I think he likes me but i'm not sure..how do you know?
He texted me and asked me to come to a job site in another state with him this week for four days and I said yes...does that mean its becoming more serious or he wants more fun with me until he dumps me...I don't know how to bring things up because I am also having fun and don't want to make things too serious with "the talk"
If you were completely happy my love I'd say take it as it comes and go from there but as you're not I'd have a chat with him about it.
There's a HUGE difference in just having a pleasant chat based on " where do you see this going " and demanding for clarity and having it come across and sound like an ultimatum which can have the tendency to put a good few off.
However to me it just sounds like you're overthinking it as the situation is relatively new to you after 6 years but I'm sure if you were to just simply ask him then you'll be ok and won't rock the boat If that's what you're worried about
If a man wants to spend four straight days with you he obviously likes you to some extent. I guess it's possible but it would be pretty cruel to spend four days together having sex just so he could use you up before he dumps you. Do you think he's the sort of person that would do something so mean? If yes, why are you even with him if you think he's such a jerk?
I'm not the kind of person that likes to have big relationship talks so I understand your hesitation but if you really want to know where you stand you're gonna have to ask him.
I personally would just enjoy his company at this point and see what happens. You haven't had sex in six years so just have fun for the time being.
If you want more of a relationship with him maybe try calling him more than usual or asking him to do something other than what you've been doing and see how he responds.
...He is 45, I am 38. I think he likes me but i'm not sure..how do you know?
He texted me and asked me to come to a job site in another state with him this week for four days and I said yes...does that mean its becoming more serious or he wants more fun with me until he dumps me...I don't know how to bring things up because I am also having fun and don't want to make things too serious with "the talk"
I would like to be sure a guy likes me before we have sex.
Seriously though, your title is: "...but there's a lot wrong". You're not listing a lot wrong, merely differences. I think you should stop spending so much time wondering if he likes you, wondering if he wants to be more serious, and consider your own feelings. What do you want? What will make you happy? That should be more important to you, work on achieving those things. That's all you can control anyway.
You haven't had sex in six years and now you've had sex with this guy. Probably pressuring this more from your end than his.
He sounds like he's interested and likes you a lot. As others have said, don't overthink this.
That being said, there's a thin line between mutually fun sex and feeling used. You do need to be sure you're both on the same sheet of music. You may be reading more into the sex than he is. You need to find out where his head is. I mean, if you're expecting things to be exclusive, and he's not - then, well, you both need to know that.
Just ask him. If he freaks out, you've got your answer. You can take it from there. But at least you'll know.
I have never had a guy be interested and like me a lot and still never contact me at all between dates, let alone have a "date" be hang at a bar then have sex. I DO think overthinking is needed here, JMO. I would personally say "I guess we should have discussed this before we started having sex, but I am looking for a committed relationship, are we on the same page?"
If you are having sex with him, you should feel comfortable enough to ask him anything. If you are afraid of the answer or afraid it will chase him off, something is wrong and again I say listen to your gut.
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