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yes, it's cheating. no, probably wouldn't forgive him.
But if I really loved him and the relationship is worth salvaging, and both of you want to stay together, I'd stay with him. He needs to stop the sexting though.
Sexting = I was trying to cheat on you and lie and go behind your back but didn't have the swagger or game to actually pull it off so I just tried to via my phone. So no.
I would consider it cheating. Whether I'd walk out on a relationship over it would depend on the relationship. I don't think of it as "unforgivable." To me, few things are unforgivable...people who do harm to things smaller or weaker than themselves...a man who rapes women, a person who abuses children, someone who hurts animals...those things I find hard or impossible to forgive.
In my mind, sexting isn't on that spectrum. But it is shabby behavior.
Sexting = I was trying to cheat on you and lie and go behind your back but didn't have the swagger or game to actually pull it off so I just tried to via my phone. So no.
So very well-put, and I agree totally.
Forgiving him just insures that he'll be more careful next time.
EDIT: I should add, sexting sometimes leads to actual sex with the other person, which puts you at risk of STD's. Un-effing-forgiveable.
My ex H did this with a girl. It led to other girls and real vontact. Biggest time waster was me trying to quantify it as "different" than "real" cheating and somehow thinking he would not actually cheat, which he eventually did. Personally, in future relationships, that would be it, once and done.
Would you forgive your spouse for sexting with multiple people? Would you consider this cheating?
I wouldn't exactly consider it cheating, although it's not far from it and the motivation is similar. I would consider it a huge sign that he was not happy with himself or his life and I would want to have a serious conversation about whether he wanted to remain in the marriage. If he did, I would insist on counseling, because IMO, this is not the kind of thing that works itself out or that he could control just by wanting to stop.
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