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Or does the older man usually just want sex from a younger woman? Like if he's not married or doesn't have any kids and has never been married. Is it something wrong if a man in his late 40's likes a woman in her late 20's? Do you think it's possible for them to actually fall in love? I know most people say that younger women only like older men for financial reasons but is that always the case? I mean why can't the younger woman just genuinely like the older man? Why is that so hard to believe? How would a younger woman know if a older man is genuinely interested in her as a person and just not for sex or a fling?
Sure...but, true love takes awhile to develop and lust takes just a few seconds. As a woman, you'll need to pull back on the sex and see if he still pursues you...it's like a scientific experiment of sorts....
Or does the older man usually just want sex from a younger woman? Like if he's not married or doesn't have any kids and has never been married. Is it something wrong if a man in his late 40's likes a woman in her late 20's? Do you think it's possible for them to actually fall in love? I know most people say that younger women only like older men for financial reasons but is that always the case? I mean why can't the younger woman just genuinely like the older man? Why is that so hard to believe? How would a younger woman know if a older man is genuinely interested in her as a person and just not for sex or a fling?
what? i married my ex when she was mid 20s and I was early 40s. happens more often than ppl want to admit or accept, and many will throw out bad or questionable motives by either the older guy or younger woman just so the opinionator can justify their unacceptance.
and btw, this is a stupid question. almost sounds like some high school troll who is completely clueless to relationships and can't believe the world is not flat.
This is not a troll question I know people who think that older men only want younger women for sex. Like it's not possible for a man in his late 40's to fall in love with a woman in her late 20's. It's always about either the younger woman only wants the older man for financial reasons. Or there is something wrong with the older man mentally the reason he'd actually be interested in the younger woman. That the older man only wants the younger woman for sex and because she's young.
It is possible and common. I was chasing after a woman/girl 16 years my junior a few years ago. Went out dozens of times, no sex at all. Call it love or infatuation. The difference in maturity level started showing up later on as my head started to clear from the initial infatuation. On one side she was very mature, she cared for her child and mom, worked, and went to school part time. On the other side she played drinking games and carried on like a teen ager when we were out with friends.
A believe a lot had to do with her being in her 20s and having a child in her teens. I'm sure she felt she lost out on her youth because of that. Havent ran into this behavior with post 30 year old women so age really comes into play to me.
Of course he may love you or come to love you. The question will be, what do you want from a relationship, and does he want the same thing? That would possibly include children, marriage, etc. - not necessarily in that order or at all, of course. He may finally realize what he's missed in life and want to settle down - and if he wants children, older women may not be able to provide that. Time will tell for sure, of course - there's no way to know for sure sooner, unless he tells you what he wants. If he says it's just sex, you can believe him - if he wants a lasting relationship, once again only time will prove it out. And only time will show if you are both compatible to make a relationship work!
Or does the older man usually just want sex from a younger woman? Like if he's not married or doesn't have any kids and has never been married. Is it something wrong if a man in his late 40's likes a woman in her late 20's? Do you think it's possible for them to actually fall in love? I know most people say that younger women only like older men for financial reasons but is that always the case? I mean why can't the younger woman just genuinely like the older man? Why is that so hard to believe? How would a younger woman know if a older man is genuinely interested in her as a person and just not for sex or a fling?
I think so. Look at Woody Allen and the adopted daughter he cheated on Mia Farrow to be with.
This is not a troll question I know people who think that older men only want younger women for sex. Like it's not possible for a man in his late 40's to fall in love with a woman in her late 20's. It's always about either the younger woman only wants the older man for financial reasons. Or there is something wrong with the older man mentally the reason he'd actually be interested in the younger woman. That the older man only wants the younger woman for sex and because she's young.
okay then, there are a few basic concepts you must understand to figure this out.
first, know that this is an very unconventional relationship for society but most ppl recognized "accept it" as an exception to the rule if the right variable exist. specifically, a man of high status or wealth has earned the right to be in a relationship with an adult woman of his selection, if, of course, she likewise wants to be in a relationship with him. and it doesn't matter what others may say, which is often driven by values of personal dislike and envy or a concerted effort to discourage and marginalize those relationships. again, the man has achieved a social status that is superior than most men, who he has competed against throughout his life to arrive at that stage (men compete with other men to achieve higher social status). likewise, whether they want to admit it or not, men compete with other men for women who have the most social (or sexual) value. for example, it is no surprise that professional athletes have hot looking wives and gfs.
second, from the dawn of man, women have sought security and protection from men and society. it is tribal, for centuries women have needed men and social rules to protect them from the hazards of life's challenges, which includes unwanted advances from other men. yes, as a culture we have made tremendous progress in feminism, a woman's independence, and laws that protect women, but that will never change the evolutionary development of the feminine dna and psyche for that need to have a man in their life to protect and support them, even through their last days of life. and, of course, there are always women who able to "ride solo", or at least think so. that is why younger women want to eventually connect with men their age "who has potential", "he is going places, career driven". or in the case of being involved with an older man "who has his sh*t together" or obviously has qualities and observable signs of having achieved that status.
so what about the tools younger women date? why do young women hook up with guys who are obviously no good for them and have no potential? because they can. and reality check, women like sex just as much as men and engage in it as frequently if not more during their peak years, they just go about getting it differently. (btw, it's no coincidence young attractive women are so flakey during their peak years, they have lots and lots of male options to explore). i no longer refer to women as sl*ts, wh*res, prostitutes because there is nothing wrong with discovering and experiencing a fundamental biological function necessary for procreation and evolution that happens to be incredibly enjoyable. it was designed that way. guys masturbate and watch porn for that very same reason. and what's more, women are emotional creatures (men more logical), so no surprise they want to feel desired and wanted by a man.
and women also know their physical desirabilty years are limited, so unlike men they have a very short window to live it up and experience life fully and the variety of men before the "settle down" with "the one", their soulmate who will take care of them for the rest of their life and create little ones... or so the fantasy goes. and yeah, sure beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but do you really think all those "older" men who are attracted to younger women have some mental imbalance? why does sex sell and are those commercials with attractive (younger) women really only marketing to young men? it is core evolutionary biology for men to be attractive to women during their fertility years, unless he has lost or diminished fertility ability.
third, and perhaps the most important, the concept of love. love has many definitions from friendship/companionship love to drunken love to deep seated love of your life. and it's often used to measure "what's most important in a relationship". but it's an elusive concept that most men tend to think is fixed, unlike women who know it is state of mind that is fluid, and, frankly, as long as they can define it for men or their particular man all the better. and there is nothing wrong with that, as long as the guy is not being duped or willing allows that to occur. it's like momma telling her son what love is with the best of intentions and son believes it, internalizes it and stumbles along through relationships and life until he finds someone who loves him like momma said it should be, if he finds her at all.
anyway, how does my love rant relate to OP's questions? here it is:
women only truly love men who they respect (soulmate love). a man must possess the qualities, capacity and status worthy of respect from a woman for her to truly love him. so the man must possess that social status, or demonstrates the potential to achieve that status to get that kind of love from a woman because, again, women seek security and protection at their core being. and man's social status directly correlates to that ability. alternatively, if she does not respect him, she can still love him as a provider (companionship, "caring" love), a man whose utility and social worth is measured by what benefit a woman can derive from him. it's a user mindset, not a soulmate. because as soon as the benefit is gone, she is gone and off looking for her "true" soulmate who will love her like she so desires from the core of her being for the rest of her life.
thus, any surprise a majority of divorces are filed by women? any surprise women won't date and friendzone "losers"? any surprise it's more acceptable for a women to cheat on her mate because she found some other man who "makes her feel special" but a guy who does the same is a dirtbag?
so, to answer your question OP, can a younger woman and an older man truly be in love? yes
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. The difference in maturity level started showing up later on as my head started to clear from the initial infatuation. On one side she was very mature, she cared for her child and mom, worked, and went to school part time. On the other side she played drinking games and carried on like a teen ager when we were out with friends.
