Ladies: How often are you the one to initiate sex? (dates, wife)
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Whether you're single, married, or in a relationship:
How often do you initiate in the bedroom? Do you enjoy being the one to break the ice, or are you more traditional in that you expect your man/men to initiate most of the time?
For anyone who has an issue with the woman in a relationship being hesitant to initiate, whether you're the woman who doesn't know what's holding you back or the man struggling with a seeming lack of desire on the part of your wife/gf...there is a book I recommend very highly, called "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski.
It's fairly common for women to experience reactive desire, more than spontaneous desire. Which is exactly what it sounds like. Instead of being spontaneously turned on and seeking our partner for sex, we are sometimes (not always!) more likely to feel desire as a reaction to something our partner does that turns us on. I know my partner will get a much better reaction from me by touching or kissing me, than just asking cold and out of the blue, "So are you in the mood?" I'm just as likely in that moment, to be in the mood for pizza, or to play a board game, or to take a nap.
That's just one of several facets of this discussed in the book, which covers many elements of common female sexuality, mostly the psychological aspects.
EDIT: Due mostly to work schedules that keep my boyfriend and I from being together every day, we tend to have sort of a standing reservation that anytime we've got a significant time block planned together and no other plans going on like parties or outings, then we are GOING to have sex. It's like sex dates are more or less penciled into our schedule for "as often as possible." But since it takes significant time, for us, there's no "wait until bedtime and get a quickie in," and if I'm going to do something that will occupy 3-5 hours, I kind of need to have an idea of where it fits in my schedule. So no one really needs to initiate.
News flash! Women enjoy sex also. I know it's shameful but we do get horny too. I even enjoy sex naked and with the lights on!
On the internet, women initiate and respond, often at the same time with their multitasking skills, and their sexual peak is at 78, which on the internet is fortunate because on the internet men want and have non drug supported sex well into their 80s.
On the internet, women initiate and respond, often at the same time with their multitasking skills, and their sexual peak is at 78, which on the internet is fortunate because on the internet men want and have non drug supported sex well into their 80s.
As a result, real life is sometimes a disappoint.
Are you saying that you don't believe women initiate? Or are you saying that men lie about their sexual prowess when they get older?
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