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Supposedly there is an equal number of single men and single women. And you would think that means that the market is inherently neutral, can't be a "seller's market" or "buyer's market". Guys seem to feel like it's always a seller's market though. I think I understand why.
Let's use the analogy of a job market and let's say there are 1,000 people looking for jobs and 1,000 job openings. Despite the fact that every job opening could, in theory, be filled, and no job applicants left unemployed, it's still an employer's market.
The job applicants are the ones really in need, so that they don't starve. The employer is in a much better position because in most circumstances they don't need to fill a particular job. It's rare that their business is in danger of shutting down if they don't fill a position. Usually job openings from an employer's perspective are like "We think our business would do better if we could find someone with this exact skill set for this exact price, but if we can't find that someone, we can still function alright." The job applicant has to settle for whatever he can get, but the employer is almost always able to be somewhat choosy.
That is how the dating market works and why an average guy has trouble finding a date while the average woman has dozens if not hundreds of dating options.
Supposedly there is an equal number of single men and single women. And you would think that means that the market is inherently neutral, can't be a "seller's market" or "buyer's market". Guys seem to feel like it's always a seller's market though. I think I understand why.
Let's use the analogy of a job market and let's say there are 1,000 people looking for jobs and 1,000 job openings. Despite the fact that every job opening could, in theory, be filled, and no job applicants left unemployed, it's still an employer's market.
The job applicants are the ones really in need, so that they don't starve. The employer is in a much better position because in most circumstances they don't need to fill a particular job. It's rare that their business is in danger of shutting down if they don't fill a position. Usually job openings from an employer's perspective are like "We think our business would do better if we could find someone with this exact skill set for this exact price, but if we can't find that someone, we can still function alright." The job applicant has to settle for whatever he can get, but the employer is almost always able to be somewhat choosy.
That is how the dating market works and why an average guy has trouble finding a date while the average woman has dozens if not hundreds of dating options.
80/20 rule my friend. 80% of women want to be with 20% of best men. Not only that, they do not care if a top 20% man, is sleeping with several other women. In fact, it makes him even more attractive. There are statistical studies that show that 60%+ women get to pro-create during their lifetime, despite a smaller fertility window than men. Only 40% of men however, get to pass on their genes. Traditional marriage was supposed fix this issue, by pairing a single man with a single woman, allowing for things to balance themselves out naturally but only if the marriage was a lifelong proposition. Today that is no longer the case, as people dont get married as much and the marriages dont really last, statistically anyway. WOmen want only top men, and ignore the rest.
Sooooooo true...and men are all dogs and will go after ANYTHING.
some men will, but mostly only if they want to get laid. then they call me the next morning when they sobber up, whispering in the shower into their phones, begging me to come help them escape
As far as appearance goes, I see a lot more average or below looking men with attractive women than the reverse. As far as income goes, there more and more women who earn more than their husbands.
I don't think this is true. Where I live, men have it easier, because there are far more single women then men. Also, I don't know why men assume women only want " the top men" but my friends generally go for average guys. As long as they are nice, working, generally attractive, then they have a chance. The thing is, it's hard to find someone you mesh with, for both men and women.
And I am sorry it is just not true that women online have hundreds of men to choose from. My friend online dates, she is attractive, normal, works etc, but she doesn't get nearly that many messages. She does meet people for sure, but it's not like she has a million options.
If say it’s harder for women as there a lot more scumbag guys out there than gals.
Much more crap to parse through from their perspective.
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