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About 10 years ago a woman while researching for a book she was writting lived as a man for 18 months.
She ended up checking into a mental hospital afterward, funny thing is I she seemed well adjusted before hand, more over going on dates, and trying to meet women caused her a great deal of stress, being that she was a lesbian and she has been able to attract and maintain relationships with women her whole life, but trying to attract women as a man she found grueling and draining. I actually read the book it was pretty good.
Honestly, if a man could walk in a woman's shoes for a year he'd be insane too.
But so what, everybody would just keep throwing dirty laundry on top of his prostrate, nutso-babbling form. I mean, he now has the equipment for all that to "come naturally" to him on top of working full-time and taking care of kids.
Yeah.
NEITHER has it easy.
Life isn't easy.
Be a woman anywhere in history for a year. Even today, in the total confusion of a fast-changing social evolution. See if you make it out of that alive.
Well, she said what caused her to check into the hospital was a feeling of losing her identity (not because of not getting dates). But it was interesting how women reacted to her when they thought she was a man and how they let their guard down when they found out she was a woman. She also said she could relate to women being on their guard because she herself didn’t like being approached for relationships when she was focused on other things. I honestly don’t think women being in men’s shoes would change much, unless men could be in women’s shoes too.
Well, she said what caused her to check into the hospital was a feeling of losing her identity (not because of not getting dates). But it was interesting how women reacted to her when they thought she was a man and how they let their guard down when they found out she was a woman. She also said she could relate to women being on their guard because she herself didn’t like being approached for relationships when she was focused on other things. I honestly don’t think women being in men’s shoes would change much, unless men could be in women’s shoes too.
Your sample of " one" is hardly a commentary on the dating problems that some people are experiencing. What are we supposed to glean from one person's experience? if this dating thing is so dang difficult how did we end up with 7.6 billion people roaming the planet?
Personally I believe that guys who can't get a date are more the exception than the rule.
It's not some kind of scientific phenomenon.
I try to put myself in other people's shoes. It's a habit that can be developed. I have to remember that women especially in their 20's get lots of attention and if I was in their shoes I'd probably let the attention go to my head as well. It's human nature. This is why I am much less bitter and more relaxed about the whole thing than a lot of men though some of my posts might suggest otherwise. I also don't fault men or women for behaving the way their DNA drives them to behave. The conscious part of our brain developed much more recently than the emotional/animal part (limbic system) so people often think one thing while doing another. It's a natural part of having different parts of the brain that don't communicate their intentions very well with each other.
It's amazing we are able to control ourselves as well as we can all things considering. The reason the world seems to be "going to hell" is because we are animals, and always have been. Neurochemistry and hormones, DNA strands, ancient drives... all control most of our behavior. It's only the personal development gurus, monks who practice mindfulness and meditation, and other people that have learned to biohack that can more easily rise above these drives or observe them without letting them control them. Fortunately with youtube and the like all this information on biohacking is readily available.
Every day I'm a little more confident, a little more at peace, and a little closer to achieving the goals that have been set. Every man should have these goals in mind, and hopefully get an earlier start at them than I did. Constant evolving and maturing should be par for the course for a man. Women too. You start to judge less and accept more after you see the human condition.. there's no need to get so emotional over everything.. many of the worries and concerns disappear even though the life ends up being more disciplined in the end with goals set...
No it shouldn't. Nature makes it complex for a reason. We should not rut with whomever, whenever. We SHOULD be selective on various levels.
Actually nature made it simple, modern society made it complex.
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I also don't fault men or women for behaving the way their DNA drives them to behave. The conscious part of our brain developed much more recently than the emotional/animal part (limbic system) so people often think one thing while doing another. It's a natural part of having different parts of the brain that don't communicate their intentions very well with each other.
