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I’ve been with my boyfriend for some months now.Since we’ve been together he’s moved in my moms house with me. I’m 18 he’s 23. He’s gotten me a ring and for my birthday he made me a cute letter/card with loving words and our pictures inside of it. The thing is, before we were official, he had a girlfriend. They met through church, we met at Job Corp. She wasn’t in Job Corp with him so he started to talk to me. On National Boyfriend Day, I posted us on Facebook, she saw it and they broke up. She still wanted the truth about how long I had been in the picture and about what we had done behind closed doors because he wasn’t being honest with her so she messaged me and I told her the truth. After she messaged me he told her that he was done with her and he told her to never text or call him again. We became official after that. He even blocked her on Facebook. I thought everything was gonna be fine until I came across some messages he sent her on his second Facebook page and Instagram. I even noticed from his Instagram activity that he had been liking pictures of her and flirting. In his messages he was sexually pursuing her. I was very confused and hurt because why would he still be entertaining her after basically telling her he was through with her. He’s gotten me things he didn’t get her. It makes me think I was just a side chick that got recruited to main chick, but if he was truly happy with her I wouldn’t have never became a side to begin with. Why won’t he leave her alone and let her go? He hasn’t done it in a few weeks but I don’t know how long that will last.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for some months now.Since we’ve been together he’s moved in my moms house with me. I’m 18 he’s 23. He’s gotten me a ring and for my birthday he made me a cute letter/card with loving words and our pictures inside of it. The thing is, before we were official, he had a girlfriend. They met through church, we met at Job Corp. She wasn’t in Job Corp with him so he started to talk to me. On National Boyfriend Day, I posted us on Facebook, she saw it and they broke up. She still wanted the truth about how long I had been in the picture and about what we had done behind closed doors because he wasn’t being honest with her so she messaged me and I told her the truth. After she messaged me he told her that he was done with her and he told her to never text or call him again. We became official after that. He even blocked her on Facebook. I thought everything was gonna be fine until I came across some messages he sent her on his second Facebook page and Instagram. I even noticed from his Instagram activity that he had been liking pictures of her and flirting. In his messages he was sexually pursuing her. I was very confused and hurt because why would he still be entertaining her after basically telling her he was through with her. He’s gotten me things he didn’t get her. It makes me think I was just a side chick that got recruited to main chick, but if he was truly happy with her I wouldn’t have never became a side to begin with. Why won’t he leave her alone and let her go? He hasn’t done it in a few weeks but I don’t know how long that will last.
She woman-to-woman-ed you and you still stayed with him? smh
Your mom should have told you that this was a bad idea to move him in. Besides, what a guy gets for you vs. what he gets for her doesn't mean anything.
You both got played. Side chick, main chick ... doesn't matter. Kick him out.
She woman-to-woman-ed you and you still stayed with him? smh
Your mom should have told you that this was a bad idea to move him in. Besides, what a guy gets for you vs. what he gets for her doesn't mean anything.
You both got played. Side chick, main chick ... doesn't matter. Kick him out.
And it makes me wonder just how many other chicks are out there.
I'm curious OP, did you know about his GF while he was seeing you? In other words, did you know at the time, that you were a side chick?
He who marries his mistress creates a job opening.
The dude is a player with no sense of loyalty or fidelity. If you want a "boyfriend", drop him. Find someone who is unattached to begin with if you want any chance of not ending up with a lying cheating d-bag.
Baby girl, if he'll cheat with you, he'll cheat on you.
That's all there is to it.
You have to learn to read between the lines with these kinds of things. Did you really think this guy would be faithful to you, after he cheated with you? This is more about him, than you.
Come on now. You have more common sense than that.
It is a very common mistake to focus on the girlfriend and how “she must not be right for him because he’s with me”. This is exactly how women get played.
Focus on HIS behavior.
A good guy who is unhappy in a relationship, then meets someone else who is right for him, is straight up with his girlfriend ASAP. He breaks it off with her and pursues the one that’s better suited to hm no strings attached.
This guy kept you both. He only stopped because YOUR actions got him caught, and when he got confronted he lied. THEN, when the poor girl went around him and found out the truth, he cut *her* off like *she* was in the wrong (if that’s even what happened, she might have been the one doing the blocking first lol).
He lies. He’s not above seeing two women at once. He didn’t get rid of the girl he was supposedly so incompatible with when he had the first chance to, even after SHE FOUND OUT ABOUT YOU. He still tried to lie and hold on to her.
Best case scenario he doesn’t know what he wants. More likely scenario he’s a player and you’re the game.
Get out while you can. And stop being a side chick. It’s a losing hand and you played yourself hard... and crushed some innocent woman in the process.
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