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I'm dating a 39 year old man who keeps losing his erection during sex. I know this is a sensitive subject for men so I'm wondering if I should express my concern? How would I go about it? Can I just be straightforward and tell him to invest in some Viagra?
Sex is important to me, so if I'm not satisfied I don't see the point in continuing to see him. Has anyone else dealt with this?
I am sure he noticed it too...
Let him handle it on his own. I would not pressure him yet. There could be many factors, some just temporary. Be a little patient, if you dating him for more than just sex...
I'm dating a 39 year old man who keeps losing his erection during sex. I know this is a sensitive subject for men so I'm wondering if I should express my concern? How would I go about it? Can I just be straightforward and tell him to invest in some Viagra?
Sex is important to me, so if I'm not satisfied I don't see the point in continuing to see him. Has anyone else dealt with this?
Has he stated to you that he will go to the DR to get help for this?If he's not willing to get help with his issue then if you feel that you need to leave him over it..then so be it.It's one thing if they're willing to get help for the issue versus not willing to do anything about it and pretend everything is ok.
I am sure he noticed it too...
Let him handle it on his own. I would not pressure him yet. There could be many factors, some just temporary. Be a little patient, if you dating him for more than just sex...
Yeah, how does he react when it happens? On the one hand pressuring him is not going to help the problem, but on the other, ED doesn't mean his mouth and hands no longer work, so...
I am sure he noticed it too...
Let him handle it on his own. I would not pressure him yet. There could be many factors, some just temporary. Be a little patient, if you dating him for more than just sex...
I agree with this, there's no way he hasn't noticed. I know this is a tough situation.
Well the last two times it happened he sort of blamed it on me. I said I was about to orgasm and then he said he lost his momentum because I said that. The other time he said it was because I told him I wanted him to orgasm and so he felt thrown off track. Essentially, he blamed it on me which is totally lame. I've noticed he likes to play the victim so I don't know if bringing up the issue will even get us anywhere.
When it happens he just masturbates until he can get it going again but that sort of kills the mood for me.
Well the last two times it happened he sort of blamed it on me. I said I was about to orgasm and then he said he lost his momentum because I said that. The other time he said it was because I told him I wanted him to orgasm and so he felt thrown off track. Essentially, he blamed it on me which is totally lame. I've noticed he likes to play the victim so I don't know if bringing up the issue will even get us anywhere.
When it happens he just masturbates until he can get it going again but that sort of kills the mood for me.
Ugh, this is why I prefer younger guys.
yep, the 40s are even worse, I can tell ya. Of course NO ONE here at CD has that problem, because they are all stallions, but in real life .. yeah ...
Well the last two times it happened he sort of blamed it on me. I said I was about to orgasm and then he said he lost his momentum because I said that. The other time he said it was because I told him I wanted him to orgasm and so he felt thrown off track. Essentially, he blamed it on me which is totally lame. I've noticed he likes to play the victim so I don't know if bringing up the issue will even get us anywhere.
When it happens he just masturbates until he can get it going again but that sort of kills the mood for me.
Ugh, this is why I prefer younger guys.
I think the defensiveness is because sexual performance seems to hit some men really, really hard. It's a very very sensitive issue. BUT I agree, his blaming you is lame. He knows he has an issue and he needs to address the issue.
Are you planning on continuing to date this guy? Because IMO if he is already blaming you for things you didn't do wrong, he could be establishing a pattern. It might end up not just being sex that he uses against you in this way, ultimately.
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I know this is a tough situation.
