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I did bring it up once, and he didn't really understand...he thought it was relevant to the conversation. The dog would not pee outside, but would pee inside on his $8k Persian Rug...for example
In context, no biggie. ^^^
Is he really a braggart, OP, or are you making a big deal out of snippets you've cut from conversations???
Well, I enjoy the lifestyle that he enjoys, and am sharing now. Trips, concerts, money isn't an issue....as I write this it seems obvious I'm hanging in there because we have fun together, in part, due to his 'means'.
His last girlfriend lasted 3 years (probably for the same reasons)...he ended it because she didn't want to grown their relationship, she wanted a 'friends with benefits' situation and he's really into both people being vulnerable and growing in Emotional Intimacy.
I'm sorry for going on and on, but we've got several concerts lined up, and future trips in the works...talk of moving in together. I like the idea of spending more than just one weekend night together, and he really wants that. Currently this schedule is easiest....
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Well, I enjoy the lifestyle that he enjoys, and am sharing now. Trips, concerts, money isn't an issue....as I write this it seems obvious I'm hanging in there because we have fun together, in part, due to his 'means'. ...
Well, at least you're finally being honest with yourself.
This is her 3rd thread about him and stuff she doesn't like.
I don't recall her other threads, but the bragging would be a turn-off, to me. Not only that, but specifically mentioning how much he paid for his carpet? Extremely tacky. This REEKS of "nouveau riche", or some underlying insecurity.
Probably, if I read your other threads, OP, I'd advise moving on, to try to find a better match. It's hard to make a recommendation based on just this one characteristic, though, since you say you get along with him great, otherwise, you share many common interests, and so forth.
But I wouldn't move in with him, until you feel more comfortable, and feel that you two share the same values. Bragging about material possessions speaks to the fact that you have different underlying core values, btw.
I did bring it up once, and he didn't really understand...he thought it was relevant to the conversation. The dog would not pee outside, but would pee inside on his $8k Persian Rug...for example
Was that said in conversation with you, or with someone else? Why would he be talking about his dog's peeing habits with anyone but you? This is weird, OP. But one remark like that, if shared between the two of you, isn't out of line by itself. But if that "embarrassed" you, I can only guess there was a 3rd party involved? Otherwise, what would there be, to be embarrassed about? More info needed.
Sorry, but if that example is the way most of it occurs, I would consider it a totally understandable addition to the conversation.
Yeah, I would be telling that story in a self-deprecating way and laughing my ass off. I dunno.
I come from a family of bargain hunters - we're always discussing how much things cost and whether we got a good deal - some primitive thrill of the hunt type of reaction. I'm not at all materialistic but I will discuss how much things cost. With the current housing market in my city, I will get excited about how little I paid for my house sometimes when we're discussing housing prices. I paid very little and now it's worth twice that, and I feel so lucky to have it - if I hadn't bought when I did, I would not be able to afford a house in this area.
I don't think I'd ever brag about how much I paid for something if I paid a lot for it, though I might express dissatisfaction with having paid too much.
I'd need more examples. I think I'd have a problem with what you're talking about if the guy was just dropping comments about how much he shelled out a propo of nothing. And my feelings would also relate to who he was making these statements to.
He doesn't really brag, kind of a name dropping thing. He always describes people in terms of what their job is. He does like to talk, and it usually winds back to him.
He has many different types of friends. Those I've met, seem to really like him and accept him for who he is. He treats his friends well, visits them when their sick, volunteers...
Well, I enjoy the lifestyle that he enjoys, and am sharing now. Trips, concerts, money isn't an issue....as I write this it seems obvious I'm hanging in there because we have fun together, in part, due to his 'means'.
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So, would you enjoy anyone of means' company, if they spent their money on experiences you're interested in? Anyone who treated you well? Why not look for a better fit, then? And btw, one need not be of outstandingly good means, in order to enjoy life, enjoy concerts, and so forth. International travel, well, ok, you've got me there. But there's so much more to life than that. Life can be very rich and rewarding, without spending a lot of money.
He doesn't really brag, kind of a name dropping thing. He always describes people in terms of what their job is. He does like to talk, and it usually winds back to him.
That would be a red flag, for me, but maybe that's just me... Imagine living with a guy 24/7 who talks about himself, or finds ways to manipulate conversations with others, so it always comes back to him.
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He has many different types of friends. Those I've met, seem to really like him and accept him for who he is. He treats his friends well, visits them when their sick, volunteers...
This, OTOH, sounds pretty good. I can see why you feel a little conflicted.
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Extremely tacky. This REEKS of "nouveau riche", or some underlying insecurity.
