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I guess night shifters date other night shifters...or people who work from home, or people who don't work...
A guy who care would show consideration and call just after you finish your shift or before you go to work.
I know most people work days,but i can not stay talking on the phone from 9am until 10am as a night shifter.
It is like 80% of men work day shifts.
Is it just not meant for night shift workers to date?
I had the same problem, though it was decades ago, still you have my sympathy. After a year in a new city working nights, I knew almost no one. I quit when I had completed a year because of it. I was friggin' lonely.
A lot of people that I know who work night shift work like 12-14 hour shifts and only work 3 days a week, so they have days of downtime, their sleep schedule is probably just messed up. That's mostly for people who work at hospitals, who are nurses, etc.
My best friend works for an NHL team and sometimes works 16-18 hours a day, with one day a week off and sometimes it's spent in another city. He usually spends his day off catching up on all the sleep he lost. One of the biggest benefits to the job is that he only works from September until the team is eliminated from the playoffs. So he might only work from September-April a lot of years. I know he doesn't really have a lot of time to meet people during those months. There's a lot of travel and long hours, but then he's free for over 4 months to do whatever he wants.
My brother worked for TWA at Kennedy airport in NY back in the early 70's. It was a third shift gig that had him getting off work at 7 am. There was a bar nearby the opened at 6 am and at 8 am had a rock band on stage blowing the doors off the place. Cops, fireman, nurses and other third shift people would pack the place. He met his wife there.
It depends on your schedule. If you start at 5 p.m, dating a day-shifter wouldn't work out, probably. But if you start at 9 or 10 p.m., then you have most of the evening for dating; dinner, or an early-evening movie, going to art gallery openings, etc. And what about weekends? If you have weekends off, there's always that.
I have worked shift work and also have often dated guys that worked both rotational and shift work. Sometimes it's hard to find time to get together, but I haven't found it to be too much of a hindrance. I'm sure it helps that rotational and shift work is normal both in my social circle and in the community I live in.
A much bigger problem for me was family incessantly pounding on my door during my "sleep" when I worked nights, even after I put a sign on my front door saying "I WORK NIGHTS - I AM SLEEPING!" They finally got it after I changed the note to read, "If you pound on my door while I'm sleeping, I will come pound on your door at 3AM." They had a 5-year old at the time, so they quit it.
I've been working rotating shifts for about 29 years now, and yes it has made it more difficult without a doubt. Through a lot of trial and error, I found that I needed to be with someone who was very independent and were alright with the fact that there were quite a few times where our schedules would be in conflict. It took quite a few years, but eventually found someone who was able to adapt.
It depends on your schedule. If you start at 5 p.m, dating a day-shifter wouldn't work out, probably. But if you start at 9 or 10 p.m., then you have most of the evening for dating; dinner, or an early-evening movie, going to art gallery openings, etc. And what about weekends? If you have weekends off, there's always that.
OP's a nurse, so I doubt she has weekends off.
Sometimes you look for opportunities in your day-to-day life. My sister was an LPN. She met her husband when she was in nursing school. At night she cleaned motel rooms to support herself, and then when she got off she went to a nearby Dunkin Donuts. Her husband was a clerk at a hospital and had taken a second job at DD to support his kids after his divorce, and that's how they met. He went on to work M-F 9-5 in hospital administration, and she worked nights and weekends in an ER for the next 20 years. They made it work.
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