I am a female and I find it tough when it comes tp dating (wife, girls)

[Mikala43]

Originally Posted by The Dissenter

Those women have no call to complain if they didn’t ask anyone out. Sometimes you have to create opportunity instead of waiting for it to come to you. Invisible my , if you don’t take a shot, you won’t win. Simple as that.

And how is that working for you?

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by The Dissenter

Those women have no call to complain if they didn’t ask anyone out. Sometimes you have to create opportunity instead of waiting for it to come to you. Invisible my , if you don’t take a shot, you won’t win. Simple as that.

Who says if you make a shot, you WILL win, though? Nobody said women aren't approaching guys, and striking up conversations, or trying to. Even asking a guy out, if they get the chance. As you know, doing that doesn't lead to results, most of the time.

[The Dissenter]

Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth

Who says if you make a shot, you WILL win, though? Nobody said women aren't approaching guys, and striking up conversations, or trying to. Even asking a guy out, if they get the chance. As you know, doing that doesn't lead to results, most of the time.

Missing my point entirely. Not playing guarantees you won’t win, rolling the dice gives you a shot to win. You have no right to complain if your sits on the bench in practice instead of participating in shoot around to at least have the coach look at you.

[The Dissenter]

Originally Posted by Mikala43

And how is that working for you?

This ain’t about me, this is about women who sit back and wait for guys to approach them. They can’t complain if they aren’t taking action themselves also.

[JerZ]

Originally Posted by The Dissenter

This ain’t about me, this is about women who sit back and wait for guys to approach them. They can’t complain if they aren’t taking action themselves also.

The OP mentioned several ways she is actively attempting to meet guys and says she approaches.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by The Dissenter

Missing my point entirely. Not playing guarantees you won’t win, rolling the dice gives you a shot to win. You have no right to complain if your sits on the bench in practice instead of participating in shoot around to at least have the coach look at you.

You're definitely right, there.

But as JerZ pointed out, this is about the OP, not about other women. The OP says it's tough for her trying to date, in spite of her efforts.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by TekashiSucks

Truth. Most women are just plain looking, but many of them think perfect men are obligated to fall out of the sky, make all of the effort, and bring a relationship to them without having to lift a finger. Then, they cry about not finding a so called good man.

As for the others complaining about men glossing over women who aren't hot... get over it. The media does enough crying about the standards of beauty as if men have to be open to all women, but it's ok for them to be ten times as picky and critical of men, lol.

Could you provide a couple of links to media articles, as examples? I have no idea what you're talking about.

[Mikala43]

Originally Posted by The Dissenter

This ain’t about me, this is about women who sit back and wait for guys to approach them. They can’t complain if they aren’t taking action themselves also.

As a guy you are the other half of the equation. As I recall you get pretty bent if a woman you don't like approaches you. But the memory of a 50 year old......

[robertbrianbush]

Originally Posted by Miss Ree

It’s an unfortunate fact of life that physical attraction is the primary force behind the choices we make. Beautiful people get chosen and plain people don’t. No one wants to spend time getting to know a person first, and that’s a shame, because a beautiful person can start looking rather ugly when they bore you or hurt you a lot, and that plain Jane or John can start looking real good once given the chance to treat you well and make you laugh.

I think it’s important to get involved in community and group activities (MeetUps for instance) in which you have an interest. That way you will get the opportunity to form friendships with like-minded individuals and show them what you are really like. Friendship with the opposite gender can and often does develop into a romantic relationship.
I think that would be true for people of all ages, but I suppose it does get harder as we age. Just my humble opinion as a 38 year old widow.

I have always wondered how much great music we have lost out on over the decades because we place so much emphasize on singer's physical appearances.

[Mikala43]

Originally Posted by robertbrianbush

I have always wondered how much great music we have lost out on over the decades because we place so much emphasize on singer's physical appearances.

I have no idea what people look like who sing the songs I like.