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If you don't have a problem keeping up a false identity and lying to yourself to please everyone, then by all means, do what you need to do.
Just know, a lot of people who got all sorts of plastic surgery and pretended to be something they aren't still get cheated on and left "to rot alone."
There are no guarantees. Be your best self, for you. Not for everyone else.
I glanced at the article and while the site in general seems at a glance to be a bit--lift hard-make money-get women, the advice looks pretty good.
I have a different take on this advice, though. I get that someone struggling hearing "just be yourself" is probably thinking, "being my effing self got me into this pit????". But I think the advice works when it's thought of as it's intended, which is to accept who and what you are, and to be a functional version of that person. Lying on the couch in your boxers eating a cheeseburger is not you being yourself. That's you responding, or better yet reacting maladaptively to some challenge or setback. That kind of a reaction isn't you, but rather, it's a choice you make.
If you don't have a problem keeping up a false identity and lying to yourself to please everyone, then by all means, do what you need to do.
Just know, a lot of people who got all sorts of plastic surgery and pretended to be something they aren't still get cheated on and left "to rot alone."
There are no guarantees. Be your best self, for you. Not for everyone else.
Am I the one only whos having an issue with "being the best version of oneself"? Easier said than done. If people knew what that was I am sure they would be that.
Is it "always do the right thing"? But again, who's to say what that is? There are so many gray areas to deal with so such a simplistic advice in reality is just BS
If we were to just be yourself , many of us will tend to rot at home
There's truth in this. Because, quite frankly, there are a lot of people who just aren't all that. The hell of it is that they could make themselves into more attractive people with just a little effort. They don't take care of themselves, they have terrible attitudes, and are pretty self-centered.
Good grief, just reading a book every once in a while would make you a more interesting person.
Am I the one only whos having an issue with "being the best version of oneself"? Easier said than done. If people knew what that was I am sure they would be that.
Is it "always do the right thing"? But again, who's to say what that is? There are so many gray areas to deal with so such a simplistic advice in reality is just BS
I think the most important thing is to call out that you do have to work on yourself, to be your best self. And you are always a work in progress.
The people not putting in any sort of work, may never find what they are looking for.
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