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Why do you think there isn't any benefit for the man?
One would think it's obvious he is getting some benefit, otherwise he wouldn't be here trying to figure out if he can make a relationship work with her.
If he's already no longer a member, he's probably more like the 'get off my lawn' type - and we will never know if this single mom is a real person or just a concept in OP's mind.
One would think it's obvious he is getting some benefit, otherwise he wouldn't be here trying to figure out if he can make a relationship work with her.
If he's already no longer a member, he's probably more like the 'get off my lawn' type - and we will never know if this single mom is a real person or just a concept in OP's mind.
Or he's just a repeat (duplicate) offender looking hard for some new angle to beat the same dead horse. We've had some degree of creativity lately regarding the Three Negs, old/fat/single parent, but if you cover dog stuff in rainbow sprinkles it's still dog stuff, and fairly often, it's coming from the same dog or set of dogs repeatedly.
The same unsuccessful, resentful, incel dogs. Who wish they could hurt legions of women who reject them.
I want to hear it from the guys who say stay away from single mothers.
Does the same apply for single fathers?
Yes or no?
It's real simple.
Well I have a history of defending single moms on this forum, so I suppose what I think doesn't matter, given how you asked the question.
OP should be allowed to ask about circumstances without being vilified solely for asking and without others coming out the blue with 'hero' comments as a rebuttal.
If it was so fulfilling then why did it end? Or did you marry her?
I wanted children of my own. She did not want anymore after experiencing what she had to do to survive.
We spoke of marriage many times. But we knew it just wasn't in the cards. No regrets.... Our lives remained intertwined even after my marriage and children. More than two decades now.
Well I have a history of defending single moms on this forum, so I suppose what I think doesn't matter, given how you asked the question.
OP should be allowed to ask about circumstances without being vilified solely for asking and without others coming out the blue with 'hero' comments as a rebuttal.
He should continue to look at the situation in a one sided way, not grow, and come back to his original, panicked prejudices and double standards as if he'd never sought others' input at all?
I've been seeing a young woman who seems very nice but recently I found out something which may or may not become a huge problem. She's a single mother. I was really surprised and very disappointed because I thought everything was going well and I didn't expect any major issues such as this.
Here's my issue with her being a single mother : There is a chance that it might say something negative about her, her judgment, decision making, etc. Or, and this is definitely also a possibility, or it could just mean bad luck, without it saying anything bad about her as a person.
What I want to do is get rid of this uncertainty by finding out which it is. But of course I want to do it tactfully. How would you suggest I go about this?
You're not buying a used car! If there is a personal connection , and you can honestly help raise the child, then what's your problem?
Seems like you have baggage to deal with before you get serious about marriage.
He should continue to look at the situation in a one sided way, not grow, and come back to his original, panicked prejudices as if he'd never sought others' input at all?
Then why did he seek others' input at all?
Wasn't this kind of a waste of time?
Maybe. It could also he's taking in new info and slowly ridding himself of bias, looking on bright side.
I'm not good enough to notice the same person hiding behind multiple usernames, so if it is obvious that he had real bad problems and world view from prior usernames, then I lacked that context. I'm only responding to seeming bashing of information seeking.
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Reread what you bolded out of my statement and you will realize I wasnt implying that.
