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I was on a first date last night. Had a nice time. However, when I went to order pizza at local market...when I placed the order....my date points to the tip jar and goes, "You may want to tip them a couple of bucks"
I never believed in putting tips in tip jars, it's kind of a pet peeve of mine. I only tip actual servers in sit down restaurants, not when I order pick-up. But I tipped anyways so that I didn't look like a dick and make my date believe I don't tip AT ALL. lol. So I went ahead and did it.
I don't know, gents, would you have done what I did, just to make a good impression?
I'm not a gent. But I would've done it exactly as you did. That was quick thinking on your part.
I dont think the issue in this thread is really about how an individual may feel about giving or the monetary and perceived value that may be associated with it, but how they may treat others that do not do as they would do.
Oh! Thanks, I see that now. Well we don't know, bc he did as he was told so they both can expect that to continue.
I'd have put the money in the jar myself, rather than Telling someone else to.
Nothing wrong with that, but I'll bet you weren't having this discussion on your first date.
The OP drove 45 minutes (each way) to spend time with this person. It was their first date and presumably everything else was going well. It boggles my mind that several people seem to think he should have called her out over her inappropriate tip jar comment. What purpose would that have served? IMO, no matter how carefully he worded it, there would have been friction for the remainder of the night.
There's a difference between "calling someone out" and making a polite suggestion... and responding to polite suggestion with a polite difference of opinion.
Disagreeing with someone doesn't necessarily mean being rude or overbearing.
I would rather base my overall opinion of a new person in my life on complete and honest information. If someone throws money in the tip jar to impress me on a first date, but later says tip jars are complete BS, I am more likely to think poorly of him than if he'd told me he thinks tip jars are BS on that first date.
But I may have issues from an ex who was all about appearances but lousy on substance. Give me an honest dude anyday.
2nd date cancelled for some guy she met online in Canada
Well, you all may have remembered that I had a 2nd date, confirmed for tomorrow with a woman I Had a nice time with last week. Well, she cancelled it today for some guy she was trying to "work things out with". Sadly, he lives in another country, Canada.
She met him on an online dating site, flew up to see him once, but he was suffering some kind of depression, so she ended it.
Out of the blue she cancelled out date because she wanted to work on things with him, and "He would feel uncomfortable with her and I 'hanging out'".
As if he really gives a rats ass about what's going on with her on the other side of the country?
Anyways, I told her that it's a pretty crappy thing to do, but wished her luck (on the guy that's suffering from depression).
I mean, I can see it being local, but in a friggin' another country?
Well, you all may have remembered that I had a 2nd date, confirmed for tomorrow with a woman I Had a nice time with last week. Well, she cancelled it today for some guy she was trying to "work things out with". Sadly, he lives in another country, Canada.
She met him on an online dating site, flew up to see him once, but he was suffering some kind of depression, so she ended it.
Out of the blue she cancelled out date because she wanted to work on things with him, and "He would feel uncomfortable with her and I 'hanging out'".
As if he really gives a rats ass about what's going on with her on the other side of the country?
Anyways, I told her that it's a pretty crappy thing to do, but wished her luck (on the guy that's suffering from depression).
I mean, I can see it being local, but in a friggin' another country?
Is this the tip jar woman?
If so, I'd say it sounds about right for her. She has no tact.
It does suck, but at least she was up front with you that her heart isn't in it, rather than going through the motions for a few weeks.
If so, I'd say it sounds about right for her. She has no tact.
Yeah, it was weird, because she and I were just talking about how all we were meeting were people with mental issues. This guy with the depression and me meeting women suffering from panic attacks/anxiety. It threw me off. Anyways, I told her I I didn't appreciate her ditching me like that, esp. for some dude in Canada that she'll probably see once every few months. I'll never forget this.
Yeah, it was weird, because she and I were just talking about how all we were meeting were people with mental issues. This guy with the depression and me meeting women suffering from panic attacks/anxiety. It threw me off. Anyways, I told her I I didn't appreciate her ditching me like that, esp. for some dude in Canada that she'll probably see once every few months. I'll never forget this.
Yes, it is rude to accept and then cancel a second date; unless it is something which cannot be avoided.
Are you emotionally invested after one date? You shouldn't be. You barely know each other at this point.
Yes, it is rude to accept and then cancel a second date; unless it is something which cannot be avoided.
Are you emotionally invested after one date? You shouldn't be. You barely know each other at this point.
We know each other from the past. Through older social circles. So it wasn't like it was an online date. it just irked me that she told me that she ended things with him, due to his depression, and we were just talking about how we kept meeting people with mental issues. I noted the irony of her going back to the guy who lives far far away. You cannot even call that a relationship.
I'm curious how invested she is with THIS guy that she met online only once. She probably is more familiar with me, than she is with him.
yeah, it was weird, because she and i were just talking about how all we were meeting were people with mental issues. This guy with the depression and me meeting women suffering from panic attacks/anxiety. It threw me off. Anyways, i told her i i didn't appreciate her ditching me like that, esp. For some dude in canada that she'll probably see once every few months. I'll never forget this.
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so they both can expect that to continue.
2nd date cancelled for some guy she met online in Canada
