Am I just overthinking or she really isn't into me anymore? (girlfriend, long distance)

[overthinking25]

I have been with my girlfriend for five years and with all those years, she never failed in loving me and showing how much she does. However, just recently, things have changed. She used to be so sweet. She never misses a day to message me before, but now she barely even texts me. She used to call me all the time asking if I have already eaten and whatnots, yet now she does not seem to want to talk to me anymore. I can’t help but think that she’s not into me anymore. I don’t know if this is true or if I am just overthinking?

[Auraliea]

Is this an LDR? Is majority of your relationship just texting and phone calls?

[saltwater_gypsy]

Have you taken her for granted during your relationship? Maybe she is just fed up. How old are you? Do you live together? Is this your first "real" relationship? It's hard to say with limited info.

[dspguy]

After 5 years, she may have been looking for a bigger commitment. Has this come up in conversations recently?

[old_cold]

Originally Posted by overthinking25

I have been with my girlfriend for five years and with all those years, she never failed in loving me and showing how much she does. However, just recently, things have changed. She used to be so sweet. She never misses a day to message me before, but now she barely even texts me. She used to call me all the time asking if I have already eaten and whatnots, yet now she does not seem to want to talk to me anymore. I can’t help but think that she’s not into me anymore. I don’t know if this is true or if I am just overthinking?

When somebody doesn't care to talk to you anymore, your thinking is correct

[fluffypoopoo]

Sounds like there could be another guy in this picture...

[Just One of the Guys]

Originally Posted by fluffypoopoo

Sounds like there could be another guy in this picture...

Yup, that is my thought too, perhaps she just doesn't have the heart to tell you. So by her treating you like this, is her hint she is moving on. Ask her about it, she might use that moment to tell you her side of the story.

[NewYorker11356]

How long has this been going on?

There could be multiple reasons:

1) There's another guy in the picture

2) After 5 years, maybe she wants a bigger commitment and doesn't feel like she's getting it from you

3) If this is an LDR, maybe it's taking a toll on her (maybe also ties a bit into reasons #1)

4) Maybe she feels like you've taken her for granted in this relationship, and/or not treated her as well as you should.

5) Could just be that the relationship has run its course for her.

[overthinking25]

Originally Posted by Auraliea

Is this an LDR? Is majority of your relationship just texting and phone calls?

Nope, this isn't a long distance relationship. We're not far away from each other but we seldom see each other because of a busy schedule.

[overthinking25]

Originally Posted by dspguy

After 5 years, she may have been looking for a bigger commitment. Has this come up in conversations recently?

Nope, haven't talk to her about this yet.