Husband is upset because “Im helping my family too much”

[jjrose]

OP. it's time to cut the umbilical cord. You are old enough to live without your mothers help. If you need childcare do what millions of others do and find daycare.

Grow up, you're a mother and wife now.

[germaine2626]

Originally Posted by GeoffD

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In the sob story up-thread, I don't get the 12 year old who can't get themselves to school in the morning. That's 7th grade. I was fully capable of taking a shower, getting dressed, eating breakfast, and out the door at that age.

Originally Posted by That_One_Girl

I agree with the others. Unless the child has special needs of some variety, needing help to get up and get ready for school at age 12 is abnormal.

I don't blame the husband for being upset with this situation.

One of my first jobs was teaching moderately cognitively disabled (students who were mentally retarded with IQs about 50) middle school students. Most of them were able to handle their morning routines completely on their own (while their parents got ready for work).


A normal (or a mildly cognitively disabled -IQ about 65 or 70) 12 year old should be able to get dressed, handle their own breakfastand get on the bus by themselves. OP, when are his mother going to let him be independent? When he is married? (Oops, maybe not even then judging by your life).

[1AngryTaxPayer]

Don't forget a lot of this is cultural. Many, like Latino and many Asian cultures view their kids as a retirement option. Why this is still going on today is nutz. Maybe the guy wasn't aware of this when he signed up.

I know a few guys stuck with "her" parents living with them because of this culture. One guy had to hide any alcohol in a barn because his father in law couldn't stay sober and he had a shot liver already. What a F'n nightmare.

I'd bolt not matter how much it cost.