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If he is, the last thing he wants to become is a "bad boy". He'll be arrested.
Only good looking guys (and it helps to have money from family) can make a success of this shtick. The women first fall for them, then make an emotional "investment" and THEN these guys pull their Jeckell and Hyde routine.
A bad boy needs to have time that working guys don't have. At college, they usually flunk out, but have a good time. Some women appreciate that, since they are fun to be with and they can't get this amount of attention from guys who are dilligent about their studies.
Sorry Riv, but not every guy is cut out for this role.
Two things women never admit is that they 1- go for superficial "qualities" (looks or height or "macho" or "rugged" appearance etc) in choosing a mate and 2- women love to have an abusive or nasty mate
But look at the record..........How many women do you hear about, know about, read about who suffer from neglectful, cheating, abusive, nasty, violent, criminal, substance abusing etc husbands while us true Mr.nice guys get USED as boyFRIENDS for free meals or even worse for sounding boards for women to complain about and even ask for advice about their abusive (wish they were) boyfriends?
What is it? 90%, 95%, 100% of all married men or men successful with women are no good undeserving abusers?
I'm sick of it!
Is it time for me to become a slob so that I too can get a woman romantically interested in me as a man?
What do you think. Let's get some feedback in here.
Now I can't become violent and I can't become a drug user or drinker and I won't cheat or quit my job or become a criminal.
But what I can do is become a cynical (or more of a cynical) stubborn and opinionated patriarch instead of the easy going, even tempered nice guy that I am...................................but is it worth ruining the beauty, the equality, the LONG AWAITED sharing of love, contentment, peace.........once my nastiness finds me the wife which my niceness is denying me?
Actually, after 40 those superficial qualities become not so important. What I look for in a man is, whether he's a decent father, is not a liar, and is not a cheater. I would always choose the "nice guy" that is respectful and treats me good, before some rugged, Brad Pitt type, that is hurtful and acts like a machismo-jerk.
Do not change for any one..It's not worth it..You will find the right person who loves you for you..I am single and looking for a nice guy which town do you live in?? what age ???
Do not change for any one..It's not worth it..You will find the right person who loves you for you..I am single and looking for a nice guy which town do you live in?? what age ???
Every nice guy I know including me keeps telling our selves this one. Too bad for us that we don't change! is how we feel more often than not now.
What in the heck is going on with this forum this morning? One guy has hit himself in the head and wants to know if it could effect his sperm now this one wants to turn into a bad ass in order to get a woman. Not enough coffee?
NO, don't change into being a bad ass just to get a woman. That is beyond ridiculous. My first husband fit the stereotype that you described of being handsome, charming, and a drunk plus all those other so-called attributes that you think women like. YES I was attracted to him physically at first then when I got to know him, had a child with him and saw him turn into the incredible hulk with every sip of liquor or hit off a joint he took I began to re-think my taste in men...and wanted out. He fixed that for me by running away with another woman. Did my ego get deflated...NO...I was relieved.
It takes women some time to understand that for the most part all the "hot guys" are either taken or are not so nice to be with. I have a 34 year old niece who just went through this very thing...and has been going through it because she is basing her choices in men on how they look first and what they are all about second.
Again, I will tell you as I have mentioned numerous times on this site, I have been married 3 times so I am not talking out my backside. My second husband was short, stocky and had a huge nose. He use to tell me that his nose would enter a photograph first long before his body did. I found him attractive but totally the opposite of my first husband both in looks and personality. Unfortunately, he passed away young. My present husband is BIG...over 6 feet, of Hungarian/Italian descent, fairly good looking, EXTREMELY kind, EXTREMELY generous and he is my life.
So, forget the shallow women you keep running into and find one who will love you just the way you are. You do not need or want the others in your life.
What in the heck is going on with this forum this morning? One guy has hit himself in the head and wants to know if it could effect his sperm now this one wants to turn into a bad ass in order to get a woman. Not enough coffee?
NO, don't change into being a bad ass just to get a woman. That is beyond ridiculous. My first husband fit the stereotype that you described of being handsome, charming, and a drunk plus all those other so-called attributes that you think women like. YES I was attracted to him physically at first then when I got to know him, had a child with him and saw him turn into the incredible hulk with every sip of liquor or hit off a joint he took I began to re-think my taste in men...and wanted out. He fixed that for me by running away with another woman. Did my ego get deflated...NO...I was relieved.
It takes women some time to understand that for the most part all the "hot guys" are either taken or are not so nice to be with. I have a 34 year old niece who just went through this very thing...and has been going through it because she is basing her choices in men on how they look first and what they are all about second.
Again, I will tell you as I have mentioned numerous times on this site, I have been married 3 times so I am not talking out my backside. My second husband was short, stocky and had a huge nose. He use to tell me that his nose would enter a photograph first long before his body did. I found him attractive but totally the opposite of my first husband both in looks and personality. Unfortunately, he passed away young. My present husband is BIG...over 6 feet, of Hungarian/Italian descent, fairly good looking, EXTREMELY kind, EXTREMELY generous and he is my life.
So, forget the shallow women you keep running into and find one who will love you just the way you are. You do not need or want the others in your life.
What she said in this is all so true..Look 12GO would you be happy if you changed just to be with a female?? I don't think anyone would really be happy if they changed to be with a date..I believe there is someone out there for everyone..I am sure you will find your mate..It just takes time sometimes...Do not change for no one it's not worth it..
What she said in this is all so true..Look 12GO would you be happy if you changed just to be with a female?? I don't think anyone would really be happy if they changed to be with a date..I believe there is someone out there for everyone..I am sure you will find your mate..It just takes time sometimes...Do not change for no one it's not worth it..
I know, and that's why I'm not changing just to be with someone. I would do some changing to make a relationship better in that instead of just throwing the always half packed suitcase in the truck and taking off to a dragstrip somewhere, I'd call her up and she what she'd like to do instead of going somewhere alone. But honestly, at this point I've come to the conclusion it's most likely not going to happen for me. Guess that sounds bad?
I know, and that's why I'm not changing just to be with someone. I would do some changing to make a relationship better in that instead of just throwing the always half packed suitcase in the truck and taking off to a dragstrip somewhere, I'd call her up and she what she'd like to do instead of going somewhere alone. But honestly, at this point I've come to the conclusion it's most likely not going to happen for me. Guess that sounds bad?
Don't give up..The right one will come around when you least expect it.. Have you tried dating sites?? plentyoffish.com is free and it seems like a nice dating site..when your in a relationship both have to work on the relationship not just you..Always remember that..If she don't want to work on the relationship than it's no good..
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Maybe I should become a not so nice guy
Have you tried dating sites?? plentyoffish.com is free and it seems like a nice dating site..when your in a relationship both have to work on the relationship not just you..Always remember that..If she don't want to work on the relationship than it's no good..
