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Anybody ever have their chest race, beat 10000 per minute when you're about to tell somebody you really like that you .... well... like them?
Yes, then immediately after I get the crushing defeat of rejection. That's why I don't do it anymore.
I've learned not to trust anybody, and I really just need to put people in my life that will help me get ahead, because in general the people in my life only have the need for me when they need something.
I have found that huge amounts of unhappiness is created by simply not knowing what to do next, whether in work, career, personal lives, or just going to the store. Time is the stuff life is made of, and wasting it makes one unhappy. Plus it can waste huge amounts of money, too.
By this, I'm not saying, "Okay, we're going out for the evening. At 6:55, I'll pick you up. At 7:15, we'll arrive at the restaurant. By 9:00, I'll pay the tab, leaving us twenty minutes to say truly witty things, then go back to your place by 10:00 for 53 minutes of whoopee." But just knowing what you want to do next in life solves a host of problems. Yet most people have no clue what they'll be doing six hours from now.
I have found that huge amounts of unhappiness is created by simply not knowing what to do next, whether in work, career, personal lives, or just going to the store. Time is the stuff life is made of, and wasting it makes one unhappy. Plus it can waste huge amounts of money, too.
By this, I'm not saying, "Okay, we're going out for the evening. At 6:55, I'll pick you up. At 7:15, we'll arrive at the restaurant. By 9:00, I'll pay the tab, leaving us twenty minutes to say truly witty things, then go back to your place by 10:00 for 53 minutes of whoopee." But just knowing what you want to do next in life solves a host of problems. Yet most people have no clue what they'll be doing six hours from now.
I believe in "contingency planning." A is the ideal; but B is the back up plan if A doesn't work . . . and C is what one does when all else fails.
I grew up in a very over-scheduled home, and I didn't have any input into what I was required to do. So, as soon as I left at nearly-18, I just wandered around, refusing to schedule anything. Life was reacted to; what I did was on a whim or at someone else's last minute suggestion. That was a bad thing. One needs to schedule study time in order to make good grades in college, LOL!!! After one year of laundry stacking up and Bs when I should have made As . . . I figured something out: I could decide how I spent my time, and schedule fun time as well as study and clean up time. I didn't have to be pressured w/ someone else's expectations all the time, but rather - I could have my OWN expectations and standards - and challenge MYSELF.
Along the way, I learned that some people are "firemen" and some are "knitters."
The firemen respond to life. They are reactive. No longterm planning or proactive intervention . . .They only move when the siren sounds. They have long stretches of little activity and then have to rush around in an adrenalin surge to get things taken care of "in the nick of time."
The knitters have a vision. They are counting out stitches. They know how many stitches are in every line. They are following a plan. They end up w/ a sweater that fits perfectly and represents months of paying attention to life.
I decided I would rather calmly count out the stitches than wait for the bell to sound and rush around at the last moment to accomplish what could have been a sure and steady (less stressful) process.
If you are a fireman, think about checking out buildings for flammatory substances, mark those buildings and have a plan for PREVENTING a fire. If you are a knitter, don't get so caught up in the project that you miss what other patterns are out there.
All things in balance. Planning can help you get there . . .
The single greatest thing I've learned and learned it young is that I am always the best judge of what makes me happy.
Ditto! Don't change who you are for someone elses sake. If someone doesn't like you the way you are , move on. I learned that one a little to late.......but better late than never
I'm pretty young still....and it's sooo cliche, but I've learned that you usually regret things you don't do much more than things you do. Not talking about moral transgressions, but rather opportunities, especially with people. Putting myself out there and being vulnerable to rejection has been hard, but it pays off when I do. Not everytime, but enough that I'm learning it is worth it.
A former high school basketball coach told me something similar that I'll never forget. He said that 5, 10, 20 years down the road when you're done playing ball, you'll never hear anyone say "Man, I wish I hadn't worked so hard. I shouldn't have shot those extra free throws after practice or tried so hard when we did our running." But you will hear people say "Man, I wish I would have worked harder. I could have ran harder in practice, and could have been a better player."
That works for not only sports, but life in general. Most of the time when you regret something, it is something you didn't do, not something you did do.
When a roofer, electrician, plumber, or other contractor starts talking about his religious beliefs as he hands you the estimate or the bill, you know you're about to get the shaft.
Also, when dealing with government bureaucrats, clerks at the probate court, or people at the IRS, be extra kind to them. Tell them a joke. Inject color into their otherwise drab lives. For they have the capricious power to either cause you misery or solve your problem. And what they do depends almost entirely on how well they like you.
1. Never say to a woman "you MUST be on your period because of how you are acting".
2. Never assume someone is pregnant by how they look and ask "When are you expecting?" they may not be pregnant.
3. Never eat at office potlucks. There are some nasty people out there who never wash their hands after using the bathroom.
4. Shop around for any item that costs more than $100.00. You can almost always find it cheaper somewhere by just shopping around.
5. Ive learned that chi is real and Ive learned how to manipulate it.
6. One of the greatest lessons Ive learned is that lessons can be learned from anyone at any time regardless of their age, sex, education, social status, etc.
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