If you and your SO were unable to create a child together... (woman, child support)
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And it turned out that it was the male in the relationship that was sterile...
But you are still set on raising a child together.
Supose that you have found a candidate with seemingly great genetics; Smart, tall dark and handsome(or whatever else your preferences for good male gentics are)
However there is a catch;
Your genetical target male will agree to this under the condition that he will not let his DNA fall into the hands of a lab out of mistrust or whatever; so the only option to get his DNA will be the physical deed. Yet before he will do this he will demand a full screening for STDs (and in return do the same and show his results) so those can be ruled out with a fair amount of certainty for both parts.
Would you consider letting a friend have physical sex with you(if you are the woman) or your SO (if you are the man)?
If you're the male and your SO find it a good idea how would you react?
And it turned out that it was the male in the relationship that was sterile...
But you are still set on raising a child together.
Supose that you have found a candidate with seemingly great genetics; Smart, tall dark and handsome(or whatever else your preferences for good male gentics are)
However there is a catch;
Your genetical target male will agree to this under the condition that he will not let his DNA fall into the hands of a lab out of mistrust or whatever; so the only option to get his DNA will be the physical deed. Yet before he will do this he will demand a full screening for STDs (and in return do the same and show his results) so those can be ruled out with a fair amount of certainty for both parts.
Would you consider letting a friend have physical sex with you(if you are the woman) or your SO (if you are the man)?
If you're the male and your SO find it a good idea how would you react?
Nope. He wouldn't be much of a friend if he made that demand
To me, it seems a little creepy to have some third party you KNOW be a sperm donor, and then have to see them often in the future since they're a friend. Do you invite them to your kid's birthday parties, etc.? Hey, Little Johnny, this is your Uncle Sperm Donor! No, I think a well-screened anonymous donor via a fertility clinic is the way to go, or adopt.
A total stranger isn't likely to go along. What benefit to him? It's not likely he'll want to go to a clinic with you, but may go for a one night stand - which may not achieve your goal. And if you explain it all, he's even less likely to go for it. If you don't use a clinic as intermediary, the guy may worry that you'll go after him for child support eventually. Besides, there are small but real risks picking up a stranger. What's wrong with just using a reputable clinic?
But in a sperm bank you don't know what half-retarded midget donated the sperm in the first place.
Okay, that's pretty crass
To correct you I will say this... the sperm banks heavily screen their donors. Many people, maybe even you yourself, would not be accepted. A donor has to prove IQ, education level and good health (mental and physical). No just anyone can measure up to their requirements.
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