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I went to a restaurant/bar with some friends for dinner. After dinner we moved to the bar area for more conversation and a couple drinks.
While at the bar, one of the women in our group (I assume she drank too much) started making out with a man she'd just met.
The makeout session went on for several long, torturous minutes, and spit was flying (literally.)
The rest of us were quite embarrassed.
Eventually, the manager came out and told the "couple" to either stop doing what they were doing, or leave the restaurant because families were present.
Here's the kicker: the woman is married.
There was some discussion the next day as to whether we should read her the riot act, tell her husband, and whether we even wanted to be friends with her anymore.
How would you handle this?
Note: this woman is not a "close" friend to any of us, but she has insinuated herself into our group.
Simple. While said act was going on take a picture with your phone. The next day tell her (collectively as a group) that you don't want to hang out with her anymore, and if she presses the issue kindly remind her of the activity that occurred the night before and how (one person in particular would be upset to see said picture). She'll get the message and leave you alone. Be direct and to the point.
Note: this woman is not a "close" friend to any of us, but she has insinuated herself into our group.
I'd let it go. But now you know that she can't be trusted when she's drunk.
The real question is, do you (as a group) like her company? Aside from what happened, she is close friend material? If you don't think she is, then don't tell her about your get togethers. If she is fine company, then just don't let her have too many drinks with you. If she starts to order too many drinks, cut her off and tell her that the last time she got drunk, she behaved badly and the group won't put up with that again. If she acts like she doesn't remember, then tell her what happened.
But to me, this question is more about whether or not the group likes this woman's company, and less about one drunken indiscretion on her part. And if you think that she has a drinking problem, then tell her to consider going to AA. And if she refuses to curb her drinking, then banish her formally from the group until she gets her act together.
Tell her husband and kids.
Find out about the guy, tell his wife and kids.
Tell everyone in your neighborhood.
If she's locally prominent let the local media know.
I went to a restaurant/bar with some friends for dinner. After dinner we moved to the bar area for more conversation and a couple drinks.
While at the bar, one of the women in our group (I assume she drank too much) started making out with a man she'd just met.
The makeout session went on for several long, torturous minutes, and spit was flying (literally.)
The rest of us were quite embarrassed.
Eventually, the manager came out and told the "couple" to either stop doing what they were doing, or leave the restaurant because families were present.
Here's the kicker: the woman is married.
There was some discussion the next day as to whether we should read her the riot act, tell her husband, and whether we even wanted to be friends with her anymore.
How would you handle this?
Note: this woman is not a "close" friend to any of us, but she has insinuated herself into our group.
It would be easy enough to just avoid her since she's not "officially" part of the group. But tell her husband? Save the drama for your momma.
Note: this woman is not a "close" friend to any of us, but she has insinuated herself into our group.
Ignore it, it's NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. If she was a good friend, I'd say talk to her in an unconfrontational way, but since she's just an acquaintance, MYOB.
Simple. Tell her that if she chooses to do that, she isn't going to do it in front of your group. And if she says that it's not your business, tell her that it becomes your business the moment you have to watch it going on.
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