Courting-too old, or still in style? (dating, woman, love, attracted)
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"Courtship is the traditional dating period before engagement and marriage. During a courtship, a couple dates to get to know each other and decide if there will be an engagement. Usually courtship is a public affair, done in public and with family approval."
"courtship: a man's courting of a woman; seeking the affections of a woman (usually with the hope of marriage".
Although these are rather rigid terms, courting means dating, when the affections are being tested early in the relationship to see where it will lead.
I hear people complain all the time in life, on this forum, about how couples don't add up to who or what they were when they first laid eyes on them. I wondered, since DH and I did not court or date, how do you (male/female) ascertain what the other person is "really" going to be like when all gloves are off?
Are there certain number of dates before you "hang out at the house or apartment" where you can see them not in a public place? Are there certain activities you happen across where you can see other sides than just the dressed up one?
For example, when I used to date (I may be outdated here myself), we dressed up and went to a club. I wore my best and favorite everything, really got tussied up to catch the eye of the new guy. I still dress up when I go out for things with my husband, so if we had dated, he still sees that version of me often, however, for those who have SO's in sweat pants 100% of the time, lost the frilly undies, that sort of thing....is there a way to counterbalance the loss of what attracted you from the get-go?
Or do you just accept this new style, so to speak, and it doesn't bother you?
We missed out on courting and dating, I'd like to hear what we missed out on!
Courtship is important, to get to know the other person, his/her family, friends, habits... likes/dislikes, that kind of thing. Specially if you meet someone online, who is to say this person is NOT who he/she said?
For example, when I used to date (I may be outdated here myself), we dressed up and went to a club. I wore my best and favorite everything, really got tussied up to catch the eye of the new guy. I still dress up when I go out for things with my husband, so if we had dated, he still sees that version of me often, however, for those who have SO's in sweat pants 100% of the time, lost the frilly undies, that sort of thing....is there a way to counterbalance the loss of what attracted you from the get-go?
Or do you just accept this new style, so to speak, and it doesn't bother you?
We missed out on courting and dating, I'd like to hear what we missed out on!
"Courting" and dating is the same thing to me. And frankly, it hasn't changed much at all - other than people jump in the sack a bit sooner.
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Originally Posted by Mr.Cat
With relationships starting off online, who needs courtship.
You don't "date" online. Once you MEET the person, THEN you may make a decision to date them.
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courting is a bit more than dating, I think it is more romantic, more involved, more committed? idk...
