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So like I said in another post, I graduated college a couple of months ago and moved back home with mom and dad, but I'm starting to miss the friends I made and the life I had built while away at college.
Sure my old high school friends are good guys, but they never want to go out and do anything or try anything new. They just like to sit inside, drink and play videogames. It's getting really depressing and boring and I'm slowly breaking away from them. I've been going out on my own, but still I'm not meeting anyone.
I know staying behind with my friends isn't going to help me, but I can't help but feel like most times I go out, people assume I'm some weird loner or something.
Eitherway, I used to worry about getting a girlfriend, but now that I'm back home, I'm starting to realize that getting a girlfriend isn't a goal but just a byproduct of a better social life.
But it's so hard to meet new people because after so many years away at college, I feel like a stranger in my own town.
Meh....give it a little time. You will fit right in.
You will be busy enough once you get yourself a job! Enjoy the rest of your lazy, youth days while you can. The "real world" will be here soon enough, then you will HAVE to grow up...and that sux!
The job I had for the first decade in (this) town pretty much required participation in lots of organizations. I can tell ya, my social calendar was FULL! Check out a civic club or two such as Kiwanis, Jaycees, Lions Club. If you have particular interests such as photography, writing, athletics, fishing, etc., look into those kinds of clubs. Don't join without attending a meeting or two, but if it feels right, join and take an active role.
The job I had for the first decade in (this) town pretty much required participation in lots of organizations. I can tell ya, my social calendar was FULL! Check out a civic club or two such as Kiwanis, Jaycees, Lions Club. If you have particular interests such as photography, writing, athletics, fishing, etc., look into those kinds of clubs. Don't join without attending a meeting or two, but if it feels right, join and take an active role.
I attended a Free Mason's and Rotary Club meeting, but it seems like it's mostly older people (primarily men) in those clubs.
Where can I go to meet younger people, especially girls? I don't think girls like to join organizations like those.
I attended a Free Mason's and Rotary Club meeting, but it seems like it's mostly older people (primarily men) in those clubs.
Where can I go to meet younger people, especially girls? I don't think girls like to join organizations like those.
But you said in your first post that, "I'm starting to realize that getting a girlfriend isn't a goal but just a byproduct of a better social life."
Meeting PEOPLE is the key to expanding your social circle. Those "older people" have friends and families and through them you'll meet more people and, who knows, some younger ones. Look outside the box!
I joined a gym, have been participating in "meetups" there are meetup groups in your area, just google that. I am so busy now, that even without friends, it does not matter. It is alot of fun to do things that normally you would not do.
But you said in your first post that, "I'm starting to realize that getting a girlfriend isn't a goal but just a byproduct of a better social life."
Meeting PEOPLE is the key to expanding your social circle. Those "older people" have friends and families and through them you'll meet more people and, who knows, some younger ones. Look outside the box!
I would think it's always a good idea to be friends with older people than you.. especially if you're in your 20's /30's... b.c older people tend to have more Money/Power/Connections , and could be great in helping your life a lot.
Volunteer in an area that interests you. Women tend to volunteer a lot more than men do. But do it primarily because you want to help, not just to pick up chicks.
A lot of people right out of college go through the same thing. In school, you're surrounded by people your own age, built-in social activities, and nearly everyone is single. You're in the real world now--your colleagues and neighbors are going to be of all ages, interests, relationship statuses. It's something that we all deal with.
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