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What do you think of a guy who is 35 years old & has been dating the same girl since high school but has never married her? They have had a rocky relationships so I often wonder why he is still with her. Why do guys stay with a girl they are unhappy with?? I am his friend but he tells me all the time about his doubts w/her. They finally started living together a year ago but things got even worse yet he is still with her. Help me understand my friend!
What do you think of a guy who is 35 years old & has been dating the same girl since high school but has never married her? They have had a rocky relationships so I often wonder why he is still with her. Why do guys stay with a girl they are unhappy with?? I am his friend but he tells me all the time about his doubts w/her. They finally started living together a year ago but things got even worse yet he is still with her. Help me understand my friend!
By the general sound of it, he is attached to her but is sick of the relationship. If he is turning to you for advise, i suggest you telling him that he needs to speak to her about their relationships because it is only both of them which are obligated to do so. It's best to stay out of couple's problems, it causes to much drama.
This guy sounds like he is loyal to her and cares about her but their are internal relationship issues that they both need to resolve together.
You can be there to support a person/friend who are having relationship problems by talking, so be empathetic and show support but take yourself out of the zone where you do not become to emotionally involved or interfere with their relationship.
at this point, he has taken away her "youth"! i bet he feels bad about that and feels he has to stay with her. she probably feels like she has put in so much time that now they kind of have to stay together. how sad! i bet they both passed up their true loves over not knowing when enough is enough
What do you think of a guy who is 35 years old & has been dating the same girl since high school but has never married her? They have had a rocky relationships so I often wonder why he is still with her. Why do guys stay with a girl they are unhappy with?? I am his friend but he tells me all the time about his doubts w/her. They finally started living together a year ago but things got even worse yet he is still with her. Help me understand my friend!
Not knowing the dude or the girl he's dating, there could be several possibilities ---------
Does he live in a Community Property State? Maybe he doesn't want to get married for fear of being chained down, or inheriting her debts, Credit record, or whatnot.
How do you know for sure he's unhappy? Did he actually tell you this??????
Some people are just hard to figure out. Could be he's lonely and wants companionship and she's the only 1 that will take him. Who knows??????
By the general sound of it, he is attached to her but is sick of the relationship. If he is turning to you for advise, i suggest you telling him that he needs to speak to her about their relationships because it is only both of them which are obligated to do so. It's best to stay out of couple's problems, it causes to much drama.
This guy sounds like he is loyal to her and cares about her but their are internal relationship issues that they both need to resolve together.
You can be there to support a person/friend who are having relationship problems by talking, so be empathetic and show support but take yourself out of the zone where you do not become to emotionally involved or interfere with their relationship.
I think what you said it probably right. I have strongly suggested couples counseling but neither have acted on it. He said they both have low self-esteem so that is probably playing into it too. And, I know you are right about getting to emotionally involved because I think I already am. Now I am trying to figure out how to get myself back out of it. Thanks for your comments.
What do you think of a guy who is 35 years old & has been dating the same girl since high school but has never married her? They have had a rocky relationships so I often wonder why he is still with her. Why do guys stay with a girl they are unhappy with?? I am his friend but he tells me all the time about his doubts w/her. They finally started living together a year ago but things got even worse yet he is still with her. Help me understand my friend!
Sometimes familiarity breeds laziness to do anything about the relationship.
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