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i just wanted an opinion. i feel torn, im not sure if i should write to my ex whom i have just recently found out is in jail. i have known and been in love with this man for 8 years now. we have always been off and on mostly due to his incarcerations. when he last got out we were finally together nfor real family , friends, the whole nine yards. he was everything to me best friend , lover, etc. drama came between us and he moved out but we still continued to be together despite our families not being a fan of the relationship. neways long story short he slowly began to distance himself i guess bc he was getting money. i know it sounds stupid but i know he loves me in his own way. neways last time i heard from him was new years day exchanging i loves yous. 2 months came and went and i assumed that he didnt want to continue to relationship or that there was someone else. i was mad the whole time just bc i hadnt heard from him only to discover he violated and now hes going to prison. i feel like i want to write and let him know i have thought of him everyday bc i have. but then the other part of me feels that he couldv'e had someone call me. i dont know at first i had my mind up to write one last letter but he doesnt love me the way i need. should i write just bc i know that it will bring him some peace or not write because i have finally learned to love myself and now know that i would not want continue a relationship with him. when my family and friends turned their backs he wasnt there either. off with some stripper. i just went through this with him writing frangrance soaked letters and feel sorta feel like something you use and throw away when your done. neways your opinions please
The longer u prolong ur connection the longer u will be connected. Writing him ties u to him. If breaking up is ur goal, then ur actions must follow ur convictions. Love does not mean being with the person u have broken up with or that u have to be there for them when they need u to be. U can love a person without ever talking to them. Now all that being said doesn't mean a thing if u want to write ur X. U should do and see what comes if that is the object of ur desire. I wish u all the best and hope u take care of u first.
And you want to contact him...why, again? "Closure?"
Sorry, no. Sending him a letter means you haven't moved on. It isn't going to give you closure, because if he doesn't respond, you'll wonder if he got it, and if he does respond, now you're communicating again.
You haven't learned to love yourself because you're still holding out for someone who treated you like shyt! You got your "closure" when those cell doors clanked behind him. Move on and forget this guy. More than likely he's beating off to the memory of that stripper he ran off with and not you. Meanwhile, work on your self esteem. Seriously.
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