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Why is it so difficult to fine a good woman over 50 to date?
I'm a 56 year old man and have trying to fine a nice lady to
Date in her 50s without any success. I have no interest in
Dating younger woman at my age. Where are all the nice
Older girls gone?
I started dating at around your age. It didn't take me long but I did have a few false starts. Internet dating is a wonderful filter. My last lady - the one I am now living with - found me. So did the one before her and we were together for three years and I mean living together.
So, what are you bringing to the table? How are you searching? What do you say to them?
I started dating at around your age. It didn't take me long but I did have a few false starts. Internet dating is a wonderful filter. My last lady - the one I am now living with - found me. So did the one before her and we were together for three years and I mean living together.
So, what are you bringing to the table? How are you searching? What do you say to them?
LOL, True. There it is OP, for the most part anyway. It doesn't matter what type of person you are or how well you will treat someone. Bad luck in the past, like former health issues, job layoffs late in life, and / or taken in a divorce, none of that matters.
But if you have a lot of money and are still working age currently earning 6 figures or close, you will have a good chance.
Almost all conversations I've had with older women, which weren't that many, centered around how much money I have, sometimes indirectly. I'm assuming that means future travel (not really my thing anyway) and comfortable retirement. This is on first meeting. So if you don't have that, move along. Best to get in the mindset of being your own best friend.
Internet dating was a waste of time for me. For a guy my experience is it was like applying for a job. The process was not fun for me at all. I gave up on that 6 years ago.
Why is it so difficult to find a good woman over 50 to date?
Where are you looking?
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Originally Posted by 303Guy
Internet dating is a wonderful filter.
It sure can be. At least you know that 100% of those who you come across there are ALSO looking.
(That is not true of the women you'll bump into at the grocery store or the dog park)
Just don't make the mistake of equating online chats with dating.
You have to get out into the sunshine with them before actual dating can even start.
LOL, True. There it is OP, for the most part anyway. It doesn't matter what type of person you are or how well you will treat someone. Bad luck in the past, like former health issues, job layoffs late in life, and / or taken in a divorce, none of that matters.
But if you have a lot of money and are still working age currently earning 6 figures or close, you will have a good chance.
Almost all conversations I've had with older women, which weren't that many, centered around how much money I have, sometimes indirectly. I'm assuming that means future travel (not really my thing anyway) and comfortable retirement. This is on first meeting. So if you don't have that, move along. Best to get in the mindset of being your own best friend.
Internet dating was a waste of time for me. For a guy my experience is it was like applying for a job. The process was not fun for me at all. I gave up on that 6 years ago.
It does matter how nice you are and how you treat someone. It also matters if you can afford the lifestyle they are accustomed to.
Do you want to take them to a nice restaurant or do you want them to cook for you?
Health is important. Many women have done their time as a caregiver and don't want to do that again.
Doesn't everyone want a comfortable retirement?
I'm a guy but I certainly don't blame women for weeding out at the beginning. Why should they waste their time. If I were looking for a relationship I would do the same.
It does matter how nice you are and how you treat someone. It also matters if you can afford the lifestyle they are accustomed to.
Do you want to take them to a nice restaurant or do you want them to cook for you?
Health is important. Many women have done their time as a caregiver and don't want to do that again.
Doesn't everyone want a comfortable retirement?
I'm a guy but I certainly don't blame women for weeding out at the beginning. Why should they waste their time. If I were looking for a relationship I would do the same.
I agree with the bolded and was going back to edit. Too late.
You are correct as well that if you don't have a lot of money chances are great you will be discarded. Money is secondary to me but obviously I'm in the minority.
Regarding the "health" part I assume you missed the "former issues" in my post...
I didn't miss it. If it was former how would they even know about it? That makes me think something may still be there.
No. It had to do with out of pocket expenses for expensive surgery that wiped me out financially. No health insurance due to layoff and no help from the state. This was before the ACA.
I'm 100% cured and healthier than most males my age due to daily exercise and healthy eating.
OP, it's a men's market at 50+. The online sites in that age group are dominated by women. If you're not interested in doing the online thing, then it's a little more challenging, but still--those women are everywhere. See if there are Meetups for singles over a certain age in your area, or Meetups for anyone over a certain age. Check out hobby Meetups. Check out Meetups that are for newcomers to town. Maybe dance venues of various sorts; Balkan folkdancing tends to skew toward an older demographic. See if there's a hiking or walking group for people 50+. Do some brainstorming along these lines.
So how many women have you dated and what do you find not nice about them?
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