Okaaaaayyy. Big milestone day here.
My car is in the shop, and so I'm driving my son's (technically MINE
) car today while running around town with my BF. I was trying to get the owners manual out of the glovebox to set the clock, and lo and behold...I find a box of....yep....CONDOMS!!
My BF is oh so trying to not laugh and not make jokes....(he has no kids so has no friggin' clue how I feel
), but I'm visibly upset and just a million things are going through my head.
Now, my son is a smart kid, I mean, he's
really school smart, but sometimes not the most generous resource of common sense. I've had many talks with him about this subject, and I really had hoped he would wait until he was 18, but he's only 6 months away from that so I suppose I shouldn't be surprised. I was more upset at the fact that the young lady has parents that would hunt him down and shoot him dead if they had a clue what was going on. She wears an abstinence ring, and though I doubted she would actually make it until marriage, I surely thought she'd make it out of high school. Her mom is a very good friend of mine (I work with her) so this would be way beyond awkward if she were to find out. She'd be devastated, and God only knows what she would do to her daughter. Suffice to say the relationship would be forbidden to continue. (Like that would work...but she's a very protective mom.)
Anyway...my BF was convinced I was totally spun up (I wasn't) and he figured I was just completely devastated (
I'm a mom, but I'm no idiot.) I think, no, I KNOW he was getting some enjoyment out the whole thing...but hey, he's a dude, so...I ignored him.
So BF went home, and I picked son up at his dad's, and go figure, I ended up having to take him to the ER for an eye injury (he got sawdust in his eyes at his dad's) and I just couldn't talk to him while he was in such pain - I felt too bad for him.
After we got home, and he felt a little better, I went into his room, sat him down, and said my piece. He couldn't see as he had his eyes closed because of the pain, so he was pretty much stuck with me. He was taken aback, had completely forgotten he had the condoms in the car, but he sat there and listened to me. He was somewhat uncomfortable, I know, but he also knows that there is nothing I can't or won't talk to him about...and I reminded him of that. He laughed, and said "yeah, I know, but there are some things that I would rather NOT talk about". "Tough" I said back. He said..."I wish I could SEE you mom...see your face - this is just weird with my eyes closed". I told him that if her parents found out, he could kiss it all goodbye, and also that of course there is NOTHING that is 100% safe as far as birth control. I told him I was NOT raising any more babies, and I doubt he'd be able to attend much college while working to provide for a child. He was pretty somber at that...but I don't know how much of that sticks, when you are a guy that age.
Oh well....I told him he better think long and hard about this, and that he'd better be very very careful, and wrap it up...TWICE. He grinned and shook his head at me.
We do have a close relationship, and I knew this day was coming...I guess I'm glad it's over. But it still tugs at my heart.
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Most people who lose their wallets get them back empty.
and I had a $20 bill in my back jeans pocket - that was the extent of the money that I had on me. I dropped some quarters and bent over to pick them up, and someone saw the bill sticking out and snatched it. That was the last time I've ever gone into a casino (other than walking through on a cruise ship). I am just too tight with a dollar. 
I limit myself to a certain amount and when it's gone, it's gone!