What's so wrong with being immature? (family, responsible, different, difference)
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I mean, i know its not entirely respected to be immature, but why not?
Being immature is like being a kid, right? But what's wrong with that?
Kids have fun, they laugh a lot, they are happy, they don't worry about a lot of stupid issues. Immature person stays young forever, in a way.
In that sense rock'n'roll was all about being immature.
So please, tell me why are people so against it?
There's nothing wrong with being fun at heart and being able to let loose and have a good time. The people who have a peoblem with this type of person is a stick in the mud who needs a trip to Disneyland. The only way this is a problem is if the person doesn't know how to turn it off at the appropriate times.
The immaturity most people have trouble with is the type of immaturity that renders a person incapable of taking care of themselves. Rather than getting off their arse and making things happen (finding a job, etc) they sit around either a) acting entitled to be handed an easy life or b) the world's victim because life isn't going their way.
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There's a difference between being immature and being young at heart. Being young at heart means that you can enjoy certain things without age being an issue. You can find joy in climbing trees, riding a skateboard, playing video games, listening to rock music as loud as you can, sitting on the porch playing your electric guitar, going to the amusement park, sledding, wearing young people's clothes etc but at the same time, taking responsibility for your own
Being immature means that you're not independent or independent minded, you're not self sufficient, you will not make any consessions to other people and you always want things your way all the time. A person can live with their folks and still be mature, if they're independent and in the proccess of developing a skill to be self sufficient.
Being immature is like being a kid, right? But what's wrong with that?
Kids have fun, they laugh a lot, they are happy, they don't worry about a lot of stupid issues...
They also throw temper tantrums, can't take care of themselves (let alone be there for others), often on the selfish and self-centered side, inexplicably sticky/dirty, whiny.....such a ball of fun.
Don't get me wrong, I like kids.....as long as at the end of the day they go to their home and I go to mine. And they can be cute at times. The cuteness factor wears off with wrinkles.
The problem with many immature people is they often require "babysitting." Lots of attention, coddling, metaphorical hand holding, etc.
Like someone said, there is a world of difference between child-like and childish. The former indicates having interests or traits that are often attributed to children, such as having a passionate love for ice cream and a wide-eyed view of the world. The latter is reminiscent of children throwing a temper tantrum, whining in the sandbox, and being generally very annoying and difficult. Although the two words are similar in denotation, their connotations are completely different.
That said, I don't like immature guys because they are ultimately very, very frustrating. It's like dealing with a 3-year old in an adult male's body.
I mean, i know its not entirely respected to be immature, but why not?
Being immature is like being a kid, right? But what's wrong with that?
Kids have fun, they laugh a lot, they are happy, they don't worry about a lot of stupid issues. Immature person stays young forever, in a way.
In that sense rock'n'roll was all about being immature.
So please, tell me why are people so against it?
Because when it comes down to our basest survivial instincts we humans want to be able to trust that those we are in a relationship with have the wisdom, knowledge and stamina to ensure our emotional and physical survival.
Immaturity by its very definition means something not fully formed or developed. Such a person would lack the most important skills and attributes necessary to attract a worthy mate.
It's just that a lot of people like to joke around in serious situations. People go ahead and call it immature right away. If i am facing a problem with a smile, not a panic in my face, does it make me less mature?
It doesn't necessary make you immature, I myself try to make light of the situation. Now it can be considered borderline insanity when you laugh your butt off at a funeral.
It doesn't necessary make you immature, I myself try to make light of the situation. Now it can be considered borderline insanity when you laugh your butt off at a funeral.
Society can tend to measure "maturity" in material milestones, your first wine fridge in a modest home, then a wine cellar in a McMansion, modest car to start then an Audi, etc.
But some people are just happy in their own skin, have a wonderful and positive outlook on life. They don't sweat the small stuff, take a "best things in life are free" attitude, can have a great time at a "potluck' house party held by a friend or group of friends.
Some of the most mature people I know live like this.
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The only way this is a problem is if the person doesn't know how to turn it off at the appropriate times.
See Rugged as the example of the difference.
