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I've been dumped, dismissed, cast aside, passed over, kicked to the curb. Today.
How long did it take to get over a break up with someone you loved?
I'm not trying to wallow. I'd like to stop feeling pangs and longing and loss as soon as possible.
Just, this is a first for me and I want to quantify, get some idea of how long I might be in this kinda pain. It's not scientific nor a guarantee I'll recover like *most* people, but I don't have anywhere else to go with my misery. I want to logic my way outta this with a reasonable timeframe.
My first break up was brutal. It took me a good 3 years to start dating again.
I was given good advice a few years back: allow yourself a prescribed amount of time to really feel it, wallow in it, question why. After that time period, keep yourself from doing those things; find distractions, get rid of obvious reminders, and start the process of moving on.
The more you allow him/her to occupy your mind, the harder it is to move forward.
Your first love is always the worst I carried a torch for mine for 20 years. I don't know how to tell you to get over her. Time is what I keep hearing.....My ex wife was a different story I was over her give or take 6 months, Although our marriage had been over for 3 years before that.
If you really loved this person, will we ever actually "get over them?"
Perhaps we get busy in our lives and try to bury the hurt, and try to find someway to move on, and get on with our lives.
How long? It depends on the couple, and the situation.
It takes me a bit to really get over an ex. I go 2 weeks of pain and questioning, after that it's just clean up and moving on.
The real problem for me has been when those women I'm over with try to come back to me and admitting they were dumb in there decisions. It does flood memories back but I stay on my course and I toss them aside.
For me it depends and not just on how much I loved them, length of the relationship etc. For instance I lived with a guy in my early 20s and when it was over I was over him within a few months. However the last guy I dated wasn't even a long relationship (if you want to call it that)and it took me a year to get over him. The reason this one was so heartbreaking was because we knew each other for years in my 20s, we lost contact 10 years, I searched for him for years then found him. In my mind I remembered how he used to be and when he wasn't that way anymore it was a big letdown. When he broke my heart I vowed then that if he didn't come back I would never let myself fall again. I met this new guy but I know in my heart if he breaks my heart (meaning he doesn't like me)then I doubt I will ever date again. Just thinking about what I went through with my last guy still makes me cry (not him just the idea)and I know I can't handle the heartache again and would prefer never to deal with it ever again so this guy is the last guy good or bad.
Depends on how much they meant to you. One ex about 2 months. My son's father about 3 yrs.
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