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Location: NC, But has plans to move to Minneapolis/Bloomington, MN
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Ladies....What is your idea of a successful first date? What would a man need to do to swept you off your feet causing you to have a feeling that you can't wait to spend time with him again.
Nothing contrived, superficial, or showy. Real conversation, but without talking about himself the whole time. No cologne.
Those, plus what Raena said, will likely get him a second date. But sweeping me off my feet on a first date is impossible. I do not make decisions of such importance that carelessly, and have learned (in business and in life) to steer clear of any pressure to do so.
I'm also aware that a rush to emotional intimacy is a red flag for certain serious mental conditions.
Nothing contrived, superficial, or showy. Real conversation, but without talking about himself the whole time. No cologne.
Those, plus what Raena said, will likely get him a second date. But sweeping me off my feet on a first date is impossible. I do not make decisions of such importance that carelessly, and have learned (in business and in life) to steer clear of any pressure to do so.
I'm also aware that a rush to emotional intimacy is a red flag for certain serious mental conditions.
Or possibly just societal/peer pressure to "get a girlfriend" because it convinces their friends, family, and community that they're ok.
Which ultimately simply comes from loving oneself and being truly fine they way you are.
OR
It can also be guys that are lead down a very wrong path where they are taught to fear the "friendzone". Again, comes down to loving oneself and believing they are likable.
Or possibly just societal/peer pressure to "get a girlfriend" because it convinces their friends, family, and community that they're ok.
Which ultimately simply comes from loving oneself and being truly fine they way you are.
OR
It can also be guys that are lead down a very wrong path where they are taught to fear the "friendzone". Again, comes down to loving oneself and believing they are likable.
Could be. People with issues like that don't make it to the first date, with me, so I have not encountered them in a dating context.
His sincerely wanting to turn me onto his favorite restaurant and maybe
to want me to try his favorite dish....then maybe grab my hand to
race to his favorite music in the park, movie, bar, gallery...whatever...him wanting to share fun stuff
with me....it shows me his enthusiasm about life and wanting to have fun.
And a confidence in his own happiness with life.
Being really nice to all people around us, maybe joking a little with them.
Absolutely no negativity...just being ok with most everything.
Now that would be a guy I'd look forward seeing again, esp if he smells really
good...taking a drive, even going to his church or group whatever
the next morning, cause if he is such a fun guy, I bet his church is all positive with great music and people, then beers and pizza...just having fun wherever we go.
First of all, he needs to be single and not married! And if he is married he has no business posting this! Married men stop trying to play just because you don't think no one is looking! In the end you will always get caught!
All dates are different, but I would consider one successful if time flew by and neither of us wanted it to end. I've had a few of those where.. whoops! It's 2 am . I've had those in restaurants (where the place is closing before you know it), just sitting drinking wine and eating cheese, and once a guy just kept driving me around because neither of us wanted the night to be over. Those were the best.
I don't know what the man can *do* to ensure this... both of us just have to mesh I think. It is what it is.
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. I've had those in restaurants (where the place is closing before you know it), just sitting drinking wine and eating cheese, and once a guy just kept driving me around because neither of us wanted the night to be over. Those were the best.
