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I moved in with a random roommate and this person started bringing friends over constantly as well as a significant other. I value my privacy and alone time to destress after work. After a certain point, I told this roommate that it's too much and we agreed to not have any visitors just M-Th as they're working days and I don't want my sleep to be bothered and such. It worked for about a little bit until the roommate started bringing over people again during these days. I felt disrespected by this but I've been letting it slide and haven't said anything.
During this time, this roommate says that the utility bill is too high ($40-$50/mo) and we need to split it monthly. Roommate was paying it for the first few months because this person has the master bedroom and the room is 50% larger. I became okay with just paying everything down the middle including the utility bill even though I have the smaller room if my roommate abided by our rules about visitors, showed consideration, etc. Since my roommate broke our verbal agreement about guests, I feel that I also have no reason to follow our verbal agreement about the utility bill. Thoughts?
Make a deal - you'll pay half the utilities mentioned for months in which the no visitors M-Th has been completely honored. You should get together to discuss what is fair and what isn't, put the rules and parameters you come up with in that discussion in writing (2 copies, one for each to keep), and both of you sign and date it. Turn those verbal agreements into contracts. Not having visitors over to disturb your sleep on the eve of work days is a reasonable request. You are actually being generous not including Sunday nights.
It might be better to do it by the week, by the way. You don't want them goofing up on the first Wednesday of the month, reason that they have already blown this month so why not bring people over everyday. The way this would work: visitors are brought over the Tuesday of the second week so you would pay 75% of your 50% of the bill.
Ex: Bill=$100, your half would be $50 (10.25/week) but they had that visitor over that first week so your share is now $39.75
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Roommate politics. Nobody can work it out except for the people who live there.
I suggest that in the future you interview any potential roommate more carefully and discuss issues like how many visitors, how many nights partners can stay over, music preferences, pets and visiting pets, level of cleanliness, who gets to pick what is on the television, cooking smells, noise level, temperature to set the thermostat... all the things that tenants and roommates complain about frequently.
I moved in with a random roommate and this person started bringing friends over constantly as well as a significant other. I value my privacy and alone time to destress after work. After a certain point, I told this roommate that it's too much and we agreed to not have any visitors just M-Th as they're working days and I don't want my sleep to be bothered and such. It worked for about a little bit until the roommate started bringing over people again during these days. I felt disrespected by this but I've been letting it slide and haven't said anything.
During this time, this roommate says that the utility bill is too high ($40-$50/mo) and we need to split it monthly. Roommate was paying it for the first few months because this person has the master bedroom and the room is 50% larger. I became okay with just paying everything down the middle including the utility bill even though I have the smaller room if my roommate abided by our rules about visitors, showed consideration, etc. Since my roommate broke our verbal agreement about guests, I feel that I also have no reason to follow our verbal agreement about the utility bill. Thoughts?
Just sit the person down and discuss the fact that they broke the agreement. Pay what you feel is your share. And look for another roommate. It isn't working out imo
Ok first of all i would feel very disrespected as well. And I would actually suggest a sort of ticket system as it were, where for every guest violation you get say $10 your next share of the utility bill, maybe the roommate will think twice.
splitting utilities is fair, demanding that your roomie doesn't have friends over isn't.
Interesting, because I think requesting no visitors because of work is fair. If OP was demanding that everyday it would be different. Plus, there should be some consideration for the fact that the roomate has a much bigger bedroom. Really, what the roommate is doing by having people over so much is interfering with the OP's quiet enjoyment. There is room for compromise, such as the no restrictions on the weekends that is in place.
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What country are you in where $40 to $50 for utilities is too high?
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