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Anyone care to share information and their experience with online dating sites for the retirement age singles? I've been participating with these sites for the last two years and wonder if my experience is typical of others' results
Anyone care to share information and their experience with online dating sites for the retirement age singles? I've been participating with these sites for the last two years and wonder if my experience is typical of others' results
I have not but am thinking about it - what have your experiences been?
My experiences have been less than ideal. In a nutshell, people are not who they portray themselves to be. I've pretty much gone back to the 'old fashioned' way of meeting people.
I have not but am thinking about it - what have your experiences been?
I do agree with Volosong but even when meeting the old fashioned way, IMHO people are different in the beginning of a friendship than they are after a while. Online dating is only a tool for introduction, the rest is much the same
Umbria, I've met about a handful of gentlemen and have had no bad experiences ~ none were a perfect match, some less than others, but isn't that the way it is in real life. I'm learning how to "screen" them by their profiles
I do agree with Volosong but even when meeting the old fashioned way, IMHO people are different in the beginning of a friendship than they are after a while. Online dating is only a tool for introduction, the rest is much the same
Umbria, I've met about a handful of gentlemen and have had no bad experiences ~ none were a perfect match, some less than others, but isn't that the way it is in real life. I'm learning how to "screen" them by their profiles
Agree. I've dated men from online and offline. Some good, some not so good. Takes time to really get to know a person.
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I met some nice men that way. One that I met was a huge help to me because at that time, I was going through a divorce. He was kind and understanding. He even helped me move out. Not really relationship material though, too many problems after a while.
Another man I met is someone I have become good friends with.
Some of the men turned out to be married so I had nothing to do with them.
One man wanted me to run off with him to Arizona after the first date! (Not very fussy, I guess.)
Some wanted to use me. There are con artists out there. I had one (never met him) who would email me with poetic stories about his childhood in India, then his marriage to an American and how, for some reason, her family thought he was only after her money. The more he wrote, the more I realized that her family was right. I finally told him I had ZERO money and I never heard from him again.
One guy had a house in a wonderful place and actually expected to entertain various women there, no strings attached. Like a harem. I never met him either.
Other men wanted babes to sit next to them in their convertibles. Never met them.
Some seemed okay online but when you met them they obviously had some sort of emotional problem.
Others were really nice but we just didn't click.
I always met them in public places like a coffee shop in a mall. Arrived and left in my own car. Finally I met my English husband online--most of the American men seemed too materialistic to me and were not interested in a relationship. Nothing against American men--just the ones I found online were like that. I connected a lot better with the British (English and Scottish) men, they were really nice. I had great phone conversations with some of them and found them to be truly caring. Only one had the guts to come over here and I gave him a week long guided tour of the area. Told him I was not interested in him though. Ended up marrying him five years ago.
I met some nice men that way. One that I met was a huge help to me because at that time, I was going through a divorce. He was kind and understanding. He even helped me move out. Not really relationship material though, too many problems after a while.
Another man I met is someone I have become good friends with.
Some of the men turned out to be married so I had nothing to do with them.
One man wanted me to run off with him to Arizona after the first date! (Not very fussy, I guess.)
Some wanted to use me. There are con artists out there. I had one (never met him) who would email me with poetic stories about his childhood in India, then his marriage to an American and how, for some reason, her family thought he was only after her money. The more he wrote, the more I realized that her family was right. I finally told him I had ZERO money and I never heard from him again.
One guy had a house in a wonderful place and actually expected to entertain various women there, no strings attached. Like a harem. I never met him either.
Other men wanted babes to sit next to them in their convertibles. Never met them.
Some seemed okay online but when you met them they obviously had some sort of emotional problem.
Others were really nice but we just didn't click.
I always met them in public places like a coffee shop in a mall. Arrived and left in my own car. Finally I met my English husband online--most of the American men seemed too materialistic to me and were not interested in a relationship. Nothing against American men--just the ones I found online were like that. I connected a lot better with the British (English and Scottish) men, they were really nice. I had great phone conversations with some of them and found them to be truly caring. Only one had the guts to come over here and I gave him a week long guided tour of the area. Told him I was not interested in him though. Ended up marrying him five years ago.
Although I am not in the market for a husband, I use my homeless friend as an acid test for relationships. It was chilly this morning so I took her a warm breakfast and my husband drove me to her corner. She was grateful for a warm meal. When I introduce her, or talk about her, to other friends I closely watch their reaction as if someone isn't compassionate, then they probably don't deserve a place in my life. Learning to screen people in or out of one's life is an important skill whether online or not.
Be careful and keep your eyes wide open. Many woman, and men, have been victimized by those who don't have a moral compass.
...Many woman, and men, have been victimized by those who don't have a moral compass.
Primary reason why I'm done, (with trying to find a "mate"). Gotta admit that I'm liking the freedom and independence more and more. I do kind of think that I'm getting more and more picky and that nobody can measure up to my fantasy. However, I do miss snuggling up to someone special on a cold night, (and I'm not referring to sex either).
I guess we all have some interesting stories to share about the internet dating sites. There are only two good ones that are 100% free.
I finally gave in and joined one that requires $ to open mail and answer mail and it also has a private chat mode. So, one day I was chatting with a character who, after about one minute of chatting, asked me to go visit him in another state and be his lover I said "no thanks" and his reply was "goodbye" and then he blocked me Like I really care. LOL !
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stories ~
I said "no thanks" and his reply was "goodbye" 
