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The Henny Youngman type of humor is something out of the dark dark ages. It always surprises me that men who are still alive could still be using Henny Youngman type of comedy.
Yeah...I couldn't think of his name. It's Henny Youngman. Who wasn't funny even when he was the thing. "Take my wife......please."
Change the pronouns as the policy isn't gender exclusive.
No it isn't... anything more than current period is "a lot"
(CC balance and maybe a car loan)
Yes, there are differences of opinion as to what "a lot" is, relative to one's financial station in life. And even within one's income range, there are differences of opinion as to what "a lot is."
A friend recently got divorced at age 74, after 52 years of marriage. He found out wife had been cheating on him for more than 25 years. He. was. devastated.
He wasn't even divorced yet, before he was on dating sites.
The man hadn't been 'available' in more than 50 years -- and was meeting and talking with women from all over.
He really just isn't they type to be alone….apparently not for any length of time. at. all.
Personally, I've always wonder how people at any age can break up -- and two weeks later they're dating. I think I'd need some 'recovery time.' But, people cope or -- DON'T COPE -- in different ways.
I have another friend who cheated with -- or let's just say -- "met" -- the husband she ended up marrying…while she was married to the previous husband…twice.
Some people also don't' think of 'separated' as being "married" ….or that if they've been "emotionally" separated even though they're still "together" or "separate lives in the same house." -- that then they're free to "meet" other people.
ROFL. I met one of those some years ago when doing the online dating thing after my divorce. I was divorced with a teenager, and so was he, supposedly.
So we met for a drink, and I asked how long he had been divorced. He said, "well, I'm actually not divorced, just separated." So I asked how long he has been separated. "Well, we are separated, but we still live in the house together because of our daughter, and for financial reasons, plus my wife injured her back last year..."
And I said, "So what you are, actually, is called MARRIED." I started laughing, and so did he. We got another drink and we stayed in touch here and there because we had something else in common that gave us reason to touch base, but it wasn't the sort of romantic relationship I was going for. It really did make me laugh, though, that he thought he could pull that off.
The preacher asked her
And she said I do
The preacher asked me
And she said yes he does too
And the preacher said
I pronounce you 99 to life
Son she's no lady she's your wife
As a single woman who is older, I definitely DO care what a prospective partner looks like. If he's really overweight, looks unhealthy, is unkempt, is scrawny, looks like he drinks too much, I'm not interested in him as a partner.
Men can say what they are looking for, but IMO, from the men I've known who are older and single, I think that men don't do as well alone as women do. For one thing, marriage is more beneficial to men (although they sometimes don't realize it). Women still lose a part of their identity when they marry, and they more often than men go along with what the husband wants (it makes him feel masculine, and some believe that's the way to be for religious reasons). They also have more duties involved in a marriage...maintaining the household, grocery shopping, the neverending cooking and laundry. Men will "help," but in older people, I think the women still bear the brunt of all that. That's not a terrible thing, but you can see how an older single woman might appreciate her freedom.
I also think that men are looking for caretakers in their later years. They are scared of getting sick and being alone. They also still have sex on their minds more than women do, IMO.
I think it's also easier for women to make and maintain friendships in their older years. Women do things together, like go out to eat, go to the movies, go to flea markets (easy & inexpensive things to do). Men are more limited in that, and don't seem to make friends as easily in their older years. So they are lonelier. There are also fewer men for an older man to be friendly with...some still work a lot, and some have passed away. Because women live longer and outlive men, there are more single women for single women to make
friends with and do things with.
So women just do better at the single life. I read a study once that of four groups of people (single men, single women, married men, married women), the rating of happiest to least happy was:
Married men
Single women
Single men
Married women
So you can see why, as a group, single women in their older years aren't dying to move to the bottom of the list, and why single men would want to move up to the happiest spot again.
The OP asked for input from men; I don't believe a single woman is qualified to answer. And I also believe this particular single woman is making an awful lot of assumptions on roles older people take on, especially revolving around those "housekeeping" chores. I also note there is no acknowledgement of who is taking the responsibility for maintenance and repairs of a house and yard.
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