Hi all! Thanks for all the replies! I purposely did not give a lot of info because I wasn't looking for a financial lesson. I meant this to be a more of a light hearted "poll" of scenario 1 vs 2. Sorry if it didn't come out that way.
Since so many are questioning for more info. Here ya go.
*We have 2 IRA's that equal well into seven digits.
*1 IRA is set up as a 72t to eliminate the 10% penalty
*200,000 is our budgeted number in our financial plan.
*We have a financial planner
*Yes, we have to pay taxes on our money withdrawn no matter what (ouch) and a 10% penalty only if it does not come from our 72t IRA
*Taxes are why I said 1 year until we retire if we buy a home. Withdraw 100,000 2018 no penalty and 100,000 2019, yes penalty since we need money to live on also.
*We are choosing to live in a high cost area because we can afford it and want to be somewhere were there are all the things we love to do right at our doorstep.
*Just because we can afford that does not mean we are not being frugal with our money. We have a budget in place and have always been great at sticking to one.
Since we have a budget in place that is part of where my dilemma came from and why I came up with scenario 1 vs 2. Because we are retiring at a "young" age our retirement nest egg has to last a long time and has to make it thru any unforeseen stuff that might come up. We made a conservetive budget for the amount we have that we are happy with. We just didn't think of budgeting in yearly expensive overseas trips. Oops! Anyway, we are not going to change our budget to ADD in those yearly overseas trips. As some suggested, we could rent first then buy. I know myself though. We rent, then I'm not planning on holding back on us going on all those fantastic exotic trips. Bye bye housing down payment.